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    Posted: 12 November 2011 at 8:28am
In Islam what is the verdict on talking before marriage between boyz and girls. I wish to discuss two topics.

Hard road to marriage-
These days when marriage is like a really hard thing due to the 1-financial aspect 2- Parents not wanting their sons to get married until later 28 yrs etc so that they can help their home financially / or being financially stable.

and the temptation for getting married in ever higher in teenagers due to media, like in early 20's boys in their mind wish to get married.

what if there is a boy who offers 5 time prayer and have someone to talk to (without nikah) and avoids all other girls.

Kindly help.
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Asalam Alaikum,

Welcome to the Forum.

The youth face many different things pulling them in different directions. You are right - some want their sons to marry later and alot has to do with the son being financial stable to support a family.  Then there are the "temptations" of society all around. Some young men are mature enough to marry, others are not.

Every place and society has different structures to help people marry. Like a niece of mine... she is in one country, was introduced to a youngt man in another country. They talked on Skype etc., he visited to meet in person etc. They decided to marry with the blessing of both families.  People are allowed to meet and get to know each other and should be done with chaperones etc.  Some places barely allow for the people to meet before marrying, imagine not even liking the person? Ick.

As you said no easy road.

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As Salamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah

Brother kindly listen to this audio

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kep8D0PXhBQ&feature=youtu.be

Unfortunately, here at sub-continents most of the youngsters face the conditions you are going thru. My suggestion for you is brother, keep fasting. As you might be knowing that Islam does n't permit direct talk between   a boy and a girl. So instead of choosing to sin, go thru an indirect way of approaching the girl and knowing her.

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
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