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Angela
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Posted: 14 September 2005 at 2:19pm |
Oh, I don't think my infertility is Satan's work....no, I know that's my trial....my Jihad, as you Muslimah's would say. No, I think beauracracy and heartless accountants at medical facilities and the general giving everything a monetary value is how the Advisary does his work. It is not always your heart he has to tempt to cause you misery. But, you're right. I need to keep my spirits up and remember to pray and be happy in the things I do have. God willing, one day I will have a baby of my own and maybe several others that I've taken as my own. then I can have the joy of pulling my hair out when they become teenagers. Thanks, Angie |
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ummziba
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Angela, I would say to you that Allah tries all of His creatures in many various ways. Your infertility is a trial. No one can know the outcome, but, try to think of it as a way to show Allah your inner strength and conviction. Never consider it the work of Satan, he has no power over us - only by persuasion, making us think wrong or twist our ways of looking at things - he can't physically prevent pregnancy. Consider this trial as an opportunity, I think you are already starting to do that by considering adoption! And, to adopt older children, instead of an infant, is a wonderful thing to do for those kids (who many consider unadoptable because of their age!). Keep strong in your faith and pray. You may never have a baby of your own, or, you may, only Allah knows the future. Either way, consider the blessings of what you have, rather than the disappointments of what you don't, that would be more pleasing to Allah. I do wish you the best and would urge you to not let your disappointment turn your thinking around. Many blessings come disguised as trials in this life! Peace, ummziba. |
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Angela
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There are only two foreign countries my husband and I have decided to adopt from....China because of their one child law has many girls who because they are second children and girls have no rights and no future....and Russia, because of my own heritage....but more than likely the child will have been born here in America. Foreign adoptions are more expensive in our situation and it would also add to the expense to get the visas to travel and pick up our child. We actually talked about it this weekend and we've decided to adopt a toddler....they say that once a child passes the age of two in the adoption system, they are more than likely not going to get adopted so we are going to try for a 3 or 4 year old. To answer about Glucophage...yes, they had me on it for 3 1/2 years now and it hasn't helped at all....and I'm currently fighting with United Healtcare to classify my condition as a health problem. My grandmother was 33 when she had her hysterectomy and my mother was 40, I'm trying to argue preventive medicine considering the history of cancer in the women of my family. But, its a fight that gets very emotionally draining. Not to put things to bluntly, but I think its Satan's way of preventing faithful women from getting help and doing their duties. |
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MayPB
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Regarding adoption -- Adopting from third world countries (if you are in the west) should be researched from different perspectives, dont believe the information that seems to fulfill your desired outcome. I say this because there is a market of children created exclusively to be sold to adoption agencies helping families in the West. Patience and understanding should be implemented in order to make the best decision which would please Allah. In the meantime, maybe you could spend more effort being nurturing to the people who are in your life now, like your husband. |
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Lameese
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Have they started you on Glucophage? or the equivalent? You can get past insurance. The way to do that is tell them you have symptoms that are preventing you from doing you daily activities. Like pain in that area. The insurance company still need to treat the disease. It might affect your fertility but they need to do something about what is causing it. Also, you might have to call the insurance co. and argue with them. For example, there is a test out there that men are given with their yearly exams. It is a blood test that detects cancer and the insurance co pays for this. The same test can be used to detect cancer in women but unless you know to call the insurance co and tell them you want it and tell your dr to test you for that it is not done not offered. Lameese |
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Suleyman
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We should also add New Orleans to the list... |
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Angela
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I was recently told of several books that treat PCOS with dietary changes, exercise and herbal supplements. I was going to try the exercise and dietary changes. I get concerned with herbal supplements because some of them have side effects that aren't talked about. For example St John's Wort in prolonged usage increases light sensitivity and should not be taken by people who work outside or are out for long periods of time during the midday. Trust me, I've been looking for alternatives, but trying to avoid hollow promises of miracle cures and snake oils. Its a tough call sometimes what to trust when there are no clinical trials backing up claims. Thanks though, I'll maybe do another search, I haven't done one in about a year. Maybe there's something new. |
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Angel
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Angela, have you looked ino alternative therapies ? There are stories of women, who've had trouble and once they have gone to get alternative therapies, things clear up and they get pregnant. I don't have any stories on me but I'm sure if you researched you'll find some.
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