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    Posted: 04 May 2016 at 2:18pm
Sadly to say a child does play a heavy factor in marriage and to be honestly blunt I'd want a single mother to be able to pay for her child at least but I would marry a woman with a child just depends on the woman.
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i read this story .
and become very depressed because we are Muslims.
and most valuable thing is in our faith is following of muhammad salal laho alaihi wasalam.
he do marriage with only one virgin women (umm ul momineen hazrat ayesh razi allah ho taala anhaa.)
rest of all ummahtul momeneen ar not virgin .
most of them are widows like hazrat khadeeja razi allaho taala anha.
second is hazrat muhammad salal laho alaihi wasallam say about orphan child. and very like to foster that.
i m with you i m not in usa now. otherwise i will proposed this women with religious happiness.
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Why not?
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Selam alaykum ve rahmetullahi ve baraketu!!!!

Yes what you said is really right brother Jazzakallahu khairun. The only thing what I want to add as a advice for the sister is,that she will treat her future husband in the best possible way inshallah according to Quran and sunna inshallah. Because I was even married to a olda women who was already having to kids may Allah aza ve cel bless them. Ameen. But the married was failing after only one year Allah hu aleem way but I think one reason was that she had too many prejudices.And because of that she was treating me in a not nice way.I mean then if you find number right tray to treat him as if he is your first and tray to see all of you as a family together. I hope you understand what mean .May Allah guide all of as right Ameen
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Originally posted by haris30432 haris30432 wrote:

Salamun Alaikum,
 
I loved reading your post and i must say that you r lucky, in a way that u didnt marry that guy.Im sorry, but y wud a woman ever want to marry a guy who doesnt have his own opinion or understanding or whatever?I personally believe that in this world, there are two kinds of laws that one can follow.One,is GOD's perfect law which makes perfect sense.Two,which is man's unperfect law many of which make absolutely no sense.And in your case,the guy like many, chose to follow man's law.A law, never authorized by GOD.From what i understand from your post,in his culture or whatever,marrying a divorced woman with a child is not right or isnt recommended for a single never-married guy. Now in the eyes of GOD,the criteria is different.If a believing man loves a believing woman,they agree with the dowry,ask permission to parents (as a show of respect or to honour them,their consent is however not necessary) etc marriage is permitted.And one of them having a child from a previous marriage is not an issue.Nowhere in the Quran can u see GOD asking single men not to marry divorced women just becoz they have a child.I know of a Muslim man who is younger than his wife,never married ,handsome and rich but married a woman with not one child but two.And guess what?She is now carrying "his" child by the grace of GOD.They are absolutely in love with each other.There is obviously so much respect between them and Im sure..they will have a wonderful life together as good muslims as they chose to follow ONLY and ONLY God's law.Praise be to him alone.So if you would ask me if i would marry a woman with a child.I would say... Why not???? If thats what GOD wills,so be it.I submit to him and his law not what the world or my culture tells me, not what my parents tell me(if it is against GOD's law),not what anyone tells me.For i know and you know sister,that believers are guaranteed  happiness here and in the here after only because they uphold GOD's law and nothing else and do not setup partners beside himSmile.
 
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Nice said.. :)
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Well, if i was in love with such a women then i would surely marry her. If the women is smart, beautiful as well as well educated then i would not find a problem in it. I won't go with my parent's advice as long as i have got feelings for her. So being a divorcee women with a child doesn't matter to me.
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I did. she was 10 yrs. older than me which i thought i could have security with do to her age/experience and to father her 2 teenage boys who have little respect for me and she doesnt support me as much as she should in front of them. Recently, i found that she cant have kids and i am desperately wanting one at least and after 5 tiresome years, she tell me to go look around and that she is ok with the 2 that she has. I was fine until she shows how overly protective and possessive she is with them and I find myself feeling as a toy for them to play with only.
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Asalaam Alaikum w.w
I was intrigued to read your story and all I can say is Alhamdolillah that you did not marry that guy who was unable to make his own decision. Your child/children are a blessing.
 
I am in a situation where i am divorced and have 4 children of my own. 2 girls and 2 boys mashallah. I was not interested in marrying at first but after a lot of thought and support from my parents i decioded to try to find someone. I too went on muslim dating sites only to be bombarded with "weirdos". I did meet some women whom i considered but eventually a close friend whom i have known for 22 years suddenly got divorced. I have known her for 18 years. She has 3 daughters. After talking to my parents I decided to offer to marry her and bring up her daughters along with my own 4 children. At first she was reluctant but i convinced her to let me take this challenge and i told her that Allah SWT will open the doors and guide me to bring up 5 girls as good muslimas and 2 boys. She eventually accepted this. My parents have given me their full support and said they will welcome her kids as their own grandchildren. So i think this is a matter of imaan. I know it will be hard but i have faith in Allah SWT and i know i will be asble to bring up the 7 kids in a good islamic marnner.
So please do not think all men are like that guy. I wish you all the best
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