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    Posted: 07 March 2010 at 10:44am
I have been considering greatly becoming Muslim.  I recently told my parents about this, though i have been thinking about it for over a year.  My mom said she would like to bring me to a Mosque, and i hope that she will soon.  But my father says what i am doing is dumb, and he thinks I'll never be able to convert, for my personality.  My mom has recently said that she thinks that I, would not be able to.  I really need that support from my parents, yes, i have support from many others, but there's not support like your own parents.  I need help on this, I don't really know what to do, I thank you for your help. Please ask any questions you would like to know.
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 OH dear brother, welcome to the IC.  May Allah help you and open the way for you and your parents into the light of Islam.. I am so so glad for your great intentions and I pray that Allah gives you the strength.
 
What religion are your parents? What do you by your personality according to Islam? Smile..
 
  I will try to do my best in sha Allah in my free time.
  Take care..
 


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And whoever seeks a religion other than Islâm, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Shawn, welcome!  Conversion is a simple utterance, however I assume your parents think you will be unable to faithfully carry out the tenets of your new religion, should you become a Muslim.  You will earn their trust and support as time progresses, so don't let this prevent you from going forward now.  We pray one day you will share with us how they both embraced Islam as well - through your example, God-willing!
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Jazak Allah. And my parents do not have a certain religion, and my father has stated that he does not believe in God.  My father says i disrespect him, but if i do, i do not mean to, it is simply because i feel as though he does not treat me the way a father should, but i am trying to ignore that and treat him with the most respect regardless.  My mother i treat with respect greatly, for i have known her all my life and she has raised me as a single mother many times.  My real father recently passed away, but my parents were divorced, the father i am speaking of now is my step father. 
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Asalaaam Alaikum Shawn,

Welcome to IC.

it would be wonderful to have your parents support. AND doing your Shahada and becoming a Muslim is about your relationship to Allah, your Creator. Many of us reverts have doubts about our own abilities to integrate Islam into our lives. But you have to open to the door to find out. And its journey of life Shawn. Where you will be in 20-30 years, only Allah knows.

Also, do it for yourself, and yourself alone. I did not tell family or friends for 2 years after I did my Shahada. I am not a "disclosure" type but I also felt it was very personal, in the deepest regions of my heart. Not for anyone or anything.

And your parents having "doubts" is often from a mis-understanding of religion, Islam or most others.

And I take karate, if you do your Shahada, its like you agree to take martial arts classes. It does not mean you are a black belt (or even get to black belt). If you have the basic beliefs then you sign up, study, learn and aim to become closer to your Creator.

Do you live with your parents? How old are you?
When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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I'm 14, and i just today went to a mosque.  They said i can return friday, and they will have a Muslim close to my age help me, and translate the arabic for me.  I'm very excited to go friday.
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Do let us know Shawn after your embrace Islam. Even we are excited to congragulate you on friday
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
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(: the first thing i plan on asking friday is for them to help me say it.

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