Someone Please Help A Lost Soul

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   courier2RED

I am a Christian Woman and in love with a Muslim man.  I just recently been studying about Islam.  The more I learn about it, the more people in my family I tend to lose.  My mom is my best friend and I am so close to losing her.  I can't lose her.  So much about Islam confusses me and so much I don't understand.  I am losing the people I love and it is tearing me apart.  Today she hasn't talked to me at all because she found some books in my room about Islam.  I cry every night.  I'm in and out of the hospital from stress, nose bleeds, panick attacks.  It just never ends.  How can I find peace with this.  How can I keep the ones I love?  I am a lost soul trying to find her way home and don't know the way.  Please someone help me???

Taryn

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christainwoman Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 21 July 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 22	Post Options Post Reply Quote christainwoman Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Topic: Someone Please Help A Lost Soul Posted: 25 July 2005 at 12:30pm
	courier2RED I am a Christian Woman and in love with a Muslim man. I just recently been studying about Islam. The more I learn about it, the more people in my family I tend to lose. My mom is my best friend and I am so close to losing her. I can't lose her. So much about Islam confusses me and so much I don't understand. I am losing the people I love and it is tearing me apart. Today she hasn't talked to me at all because she found some books in my room about Islam. I cry every night. I'm in and out of the hospital from stress, nose bleeds, panick attacks. It just never ends. How can I find peace with this. How can I keep the ones I love? I am a lost soul trying to find her way home and don't know the way. Please someone help me??? Taryn

Khadija1021 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Joined: 30 June 2005 Status: Offline Points: 530	Post Options Post Reply Quote Khadija1021 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 1:46pm
	Christainwoman, Pray! And when you think you have prayed all you can, pray some more. With a sincere heart, ask Allah (God) to guide you to what is best for you according to His Will. As long as you choose what Allah knows is best for you, how can you go wrong? PAZ, Khadija
	Say: 'My prayer and my rites, my living and my dying, are for Allah alone, the Lord of all the worlds. (Qur'an, 6:162)

christainwoman Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 21 July 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 22	Post Options Post Reply Quote christainwoman Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 2:06pm
	But what about my family and everyone I love?! If I lose them then I have nothing left in me!

Khadija1021 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Joined: 30 June 2005 Status: Offline Points: 530	Post Options Post Reply Quote Khadija1021 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 2:32pm
	Christainwoman, That is why I said to pray to Allah for what is best for you according to His Will. Sometimes life brings us hard choices but we must decide regardless. I simply believe that in such hard positions it is best to present such matters to Allah and beg Him to guide you in making the right decision. I am a newly reverted Muslim from the US. I have not even told my family yet because I know what they will say. So, I'm only focusing on strengthening my understanding and religious path (deen) at this time. I have faith that when the time is right, Allah will guide me to reveal my faith to them. I know they will not approve, but I must do what I know is right for my own soul. I know your case is slightly different because you are not a Muslim and you also are considering marrying a Muslim. But look at it on the positive side, at least you have a man to be there to comfort, support and help you through this bump in the road with your family. I'm sure once they see how happy you are and that this man will treat you wonderfully, they will begin to feel different. Pray on these things because Allah always knows what is best. PAZ, Khadija Edited by Khadija1021
	Say: 'My prayer and my rites, my living and my dying, are for Allah alone, the Lord of all the worlds. (Qur'an, 6:162)

J.R. Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 25 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 87	Post Options Post Reply Quote J.R. Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 2:51pm
	Assalamu Alaikum, I am also a revert to Islam. It took me two years to work up the strength to tell my parents I'm Muslim. My family are very devote, practicing Catholics with even some members of the clergy amongst them. I don't know why it took me two years but when the time was right I felt it in my heart. I tried to give them signs along the way to "soften the blow" but when I revealed to them who I am it was a total shock. It took my mom a few months to get around talking to me, that was after a series of nasty emails. The crying didn't stop there with her. When I moved back into my house there were still moments of anger and sadness from her. I just started wearing hijab full-time andn ow my family won't even email me. My mother says she will never look at me again and the brother I have always been close to has also turned his back on me, insulted my intelligence, and bashed my faith. I can't even imagine how many nights I have spent crying over this. I miss my mom so much and i miss holding her and my father. If I email my dad with a specific question he'll reply, but nothing from her. I'm not saying my story should make yours any easier. I did this because I know God comes first. Without God, we wouldn't have our families. Ask yourself, would you be thinking of reverting to Islam if this man was NOT in your life? God forbid, if you were to break up, would you still pursue Islam? It must be for yourself. You have to take things day by day and always show love to your family even when they show you anger. I pray in time my family will wise up and see they're missing out on their only daughter's life. If God is calling to you, you are not lost. You are chosen. Peace, J.R.
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Jenni Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 10 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 705	Post Options Post Reply Quote Jenni Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 4:39pm
	Don't convert for love thats all I have to say!!!! I converted after marraige and after my first child, solely for me and not for my husband. By that time we were all ready married and my family didn't think he was trying to change me or anything. If you don't want to convert than don't and give it time, maybe be engaged. If you decide to convert you can wait until you are leaving your parents home and get married. IF your husband makes a sincere effort to love your family and be helpful to them and treat you well they will God willing come around.PEace
	You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.

christainwoman Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Newbie Joined: 21 July 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 22	Post Options Post Reply Quote christainwoman Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 5:37pm
	I am doing this for me!! Not for the man I want to be with. All my life I've been confussed about this and then when I finally found out what was true, I'm having trouble holding onto it.

Rose Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 07 July 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 167	Post Options Post Reply Quote Rose Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 July 2005 at 11:13pm
	Salam, I can't describe how I feel just reading your posts. I could just feel how strong you are all,converting to Islam, it isn't easy. You are so lucky to feel this, my eyes are filled with tears.... I am born muslim and I need to still learn soo much, and trust me nothing is easy in life. I truely wish you all the best, and I pray for you, christainwoman.
	A thorn defends the rose,harming only those who would steal the blossom