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    Posted: 22 July 2005 at 6:01pm
Assalamo Alaikum,

I have read many threads on the internet in regards to polygamy and
polyandry.

I realize that allot of sisters think this is unfair because the first thing
they realize is that it gives brothers (some) ideas that they can find more
wives if they can afford it,
but...

I always thought that instead of a divorce, why not the brother just get
married to a second wife, and then finally settle only until when a new
brother comes along for the 1st wife that could afford to marry her.

Is this the islamic way to really see multiple marriages?

In what way should a Brother have to treat his wives when having married
to more then one? by supporting them financially, loving them or both?



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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote aisha Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 23 July 2005 at 7:02am
as a sister,i do support the ploygamy issues,but in the right circumstances,i think in polygramy is good it does make sure women get loved and looked after,if they have no-one else,in fact polygramy is more benificial to women then men.the men with more than one wife has to make sure that all hes wives get treated the same and all the children,and in some cases the wives familys.the wives get themselves a nanny,and a good helping hand around the house,and possibly a friend to talk to,allah(swt)knew he was helping women when he gave this revelation to our prophet(swa),some men thought it was for there own benefit(he,he). 
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Originally posted by aisha aisha wrote:

as a sister,i do support the ploygamy issues,but in the
right circumstances,i think inpolygramy is good it does make sure
women get loved and looked after,if they have no-one else,in fact
polygramy is more benificial to women then men.the men with more than
one wife has to make sure that all hes wives get treated the same and all
the children,and in some cases the wives familys.the wives get themselves
a nanny,and a good helping hand around the house,and possibly a friend
to talk to,allah(swt)knew he was helping women when he gave this
revelation to our prophet(swa),some men thought it was for there own
benefit(he,he).


Assalamo Alaikum,

This is why i posted this to clarify the issues around the net i found.

Divorce is to be avoided as mush as possible, which brings us to the point
of what does a brother have to do other then his responsibility of
continuing his duty to provide for the first wife, even if he seeks marriage
with the second.

But the question i have is what is to be treated equally, the providing or
the romace?

Its obvious the romace died or if the brother wanted a variety of sisters it
then against the islamic shcool of thought., i mean unless he was
adopting 3 more wives who are widows or orphans and or victems of war.
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Originally posted by aisha aisha wrote:

the wives get themselves a nanny,and a good helping hand around the house,and possibly a friend to talk 

Are you saying the second wife becomes a nanny, and a good helping hand around the house, and etc.?  If so, nothing could be further from the truth - generally speaking.

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" what do we do with the QURAN verse that says to leave one wife before taking on another? Im pretty sure that polygamy is only allowed in very special cases, and only to support a widdow and her child.

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Islamicity Multiple Wives Counting Center highly recommends you to reading that book:

http://www.al-islamforall.org/litre/englitre/Polygainis.htm

brother Suleyman-Islamicity Multiple Wives Counting Center(IMWCC):helps you to not passing over 4 to brothers 1 to sisters since 2001....



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Sorry since 2003 i am not as old as Angel...
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Originally posted by Noah Noah wrote:

" what do we do with the QURAN verse that says to leave one wife before taking on another?

Kindly site that verse for us, as I have not come across a verse in my studies of the Quran, requiring a man to "leave one wife before taking on another".

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