PLEASE HELP!!

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I asked him to give me her phone number since he refuses to end their 

"friendship" even though I demanded it, saying that I have every right to 

demand that being his wife and considering what he did with her.  I don't 

blame her, she doesn't know he's married to me.  Well he won't give me 

her number upon me asking for it for over two hours on the phone.

J.R.

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J.R. Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 25 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 87	Post Options Post Reply Quote J.R. Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 July 2005 at 9:39pm
	Also.... I asked him to give me her phone number since he refuses to end their "friendship" even though I demanded it, saying that I have every right to demand that being his wife and considering what he did with her. I don't blame her, she doesn't know he's married to me. Well he won't give me her number upon me asking for it for over two hours on the phone. J.R.
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J.R. Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 25 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 87	Post Options Post Reply Quote J.R. Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 July 2005 at 9:35pm
	Wassalam, [Edited by Moderator] The betrayal I feel is cutting me like a knife. Allah hafiz, J.R. Note: Detailed content of unislamic acts should not be posted on this forum. Thank you. Nausheen Edited by Nausheen
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Nausheen Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 10 January 2001 Status: Offline Points: 4251	Post Options Post Reply Quote Nausheen Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 July 2005 at 8:21pm
	*Auzubillahi minash shaitan ir rajeem,* *Bismillah ir rahman ir rahim,* Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullah Dear sister J.R. , It would really be very hurtful for you to endure such circumstances. may allah give you patience and courage, insha allah, ameen. When two non-mehram from opposite gender are alone, it is said that the third between them is shaitan. He wispers to them ideas which are unlawful - this is what happend to your husband, because he continues to talk to this woman, and then had met her. It is likely that when you join him and the two of you start a life together, the influence of this other woman fades out. On the contrary it is also possible that it always remains there. All will depend on the type of relationship the two of you share. We dont know what future holds for us, but given the present situation, you should give your marriage a try, - give your husband a chance to become a good husband. He wants to be honest with you, which is a good start. You can incourage him to be islamic, practicing muslim. The presence and influence of deen in a household brings all the barakah and rahmah insha allah. May allah guide you both, and deliver you to marital bliss insha allah, ameen. Maa salaama, Nausheen
	<font color=purple>Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.[/COLOR]

ummziba Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 16 March 2005 Location: Canada Status: Offline Points: 1158	Post Options Post Reply Quote ummziba Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 July 2005 at 4:22pm
	Assalamu alaikum Sister J.R. Ya Allah! Sister I feel so bad for you! You are surely being tried. I don't know what advice to give to you but I want you to know that I will pray for you. Try to keep in mind that the life of this world is a prison for the believers. You are certainly backed into a corner. Is there anyone who can help you? Someone at your masjid? Perhaps you need to sit down and have a real long, sincere and firm talk with your husband. Try to determine his plans. Perhaps you should be firm in letting him know that this behavior of his is not acceptable at all. Go over with him what kind of behavior is expected from a Muslim husband.. I don't know...I just feel so bad for you. Try to be firm. Try hard to stay steady in your faith. Your world probably seems to be caving in on you right now - remember: "So, Verily, with every difficulty there is relief: 94:5, Verily, with every difficulty there is relief." 94:6 Peace, ummziba.
	Sticks and stones may break my bones, but your words...they break my soul ~

J.R. Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Joined: 25 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 87	Post Options Post Reply Quote J.R. Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 20 July 2005 at 4:03pm
	Sisters and brothers, I can NOT believe this is happeing to me!! I got married over a month ago and plan to move and join my husband next month. He told me before we got married he was "seeing" someone for three years before we met. I told him it's not my place to judge and that the past is past, especially since I didn't know him them. Well he calls me today on the phone and tells me he has something to tell me. He said he in fact had a sexual relationship with this non-Muslim woman whom he never married and they broek up RIGHT before he and I met. To make the long story short he confessed he STILL talks to her on the phone and in fact talked to her just last night but that they're just "friends" but I asked him if he told her he's married and he said no. He ended up confessing to me that she came back into his town just this past Monday and they met, hung out, went otu to eat together, and that they hugged for a bit and HELD HANDS!!!!!! THIS IS MY HUSBAND!! WE WERE MARRIED IN FRONT OF WITNESSES IN HIS MOSQUE THERE!!! I am all alone!! My family totally cut ties with me due to my hijab and now this!!!! He feels so bad and wanted to come out and be honest with me but says he still loves me. I was willing to overlook his fornication since it occured before we met and no one is perfect BUT WHAT ABOUT THESE PHONE CALLS AND HIM HOLDING ANOTHER WOMAN'S HAND...A WOMAN HE HAD A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH!!!!! WHAT DO I DO??? J.R.
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