problems in marriage

Sister,in my life,I have expeirenced deep depressions. I found these things helped me: I saw a doctor,got on anti depressants,I increased my physical activity(which release's endorfins in the brain,and lifts the mood)I cut out anything in my diet that I found triggered a depressed state,like chocolate,and caffeine,sugar.I also cut out people from my life that were toxic to my well being. Do you live in a place that has a good amount of sunshine?Even in the winter? There is a disorder called "S.A.D" (Seasonal Affected Disorder)Just TRY to remember,when you are going thru a depressive time,to KNOW that it WILL pass,and you WILL survive it. Hang in there sister,TRY to think positivly,and see a doctor ASAP.

Dear Sister Kiny,

I pray that your depression leaves you inshallah. I have had many problems but also many good times in my marriage that will be 8 yrs this July. I felt the same way at the beginning of our marriage. If you feel like crying, try going into another room in your home and cry there. (that is if your husband is home). Some men just don't like crying, they deal with their emotions differently. They like to see you happy. We all would like you to be happy. Life can get quite strange at times. You know, if he is there and you feel like crying, try thinking of a happy moment that the two had before. In other words, try getting your mind to think of something else. When your husband is not home, keep yourself busy. Try new things you haven't done. But most importantly, keep your faith in Allah and pray for you and your husbands life to be good. And thank Allah for the things that you have in life. May Allah help and protect you. My salam...

Perhaps Sister, you need to find some activities to keep yourself busy, hence keep depression away. If your 'depression' is actually serious, and not just moodiness, please consult a psycholgist. . . it will help greatly. Perhaps you have a close friend whom you can confide in? Sometimes, emptying ones chest really helps. If not . . . perhaps u could make an anonymous online friend (female) and share ur troubles without revealing any personal/private/detailed info . . . You just need a support-group.