bitter taste In my mouth

That is very good news sis.
I am VERY happy for you. And soon inshallah you tell us more good news. Stick to Allah's way and you won't be lost. I am happy to be your sister in Islam and your friend.
Plz pray for me. I need great duaa.

Edited by Full of Hopes - 15 September 2009 at 12:12am

Dear Allah First,

Sometimes, the life suddenly turns and from one day to another, we feel we failed and we were happier in the past and now we are poor...

I cannot see your situation like the situation of a poor person: you have a son, and I am sure he loves you. You have a job, do you know how many millions of women are without job in this world? And they have more than one son.

You must find the peace point in your life. You need to meet people, maybe other mothers in your same situation (why don't you ask in the Mosque? I know in Spain, they are making like women groups to support special situations like yours).

But don't point your view at your ex-husband, and absolutely, don't think that he is happier than you. We cannot see inside the people, and maybe all what he has is not enough for him. We should never think that others are happiest than us, because every human being is having pain inside, due to different things, but the pain is inherent to us.

I would suggest you to improve yourself. Make a course about something you like, or try to look for something to do. And obviously, spend more time with your child. Just think about what you feels when he kiss you, and when he tells you "I love you mum", or just while he looks at you. Really, I am not mother, but I believe that is the best thing in this life.

You are a very rich person, dear. Don't forget it.

Salams
Patricia

Whatever comes my way. My greatest fear is that i'll fail my son. I will continue praying and ask you to also keep me in yr dua's .

And part of that is to have faith in Allah to take care of your son. Ultimately all is in Allah's control. Its hard as you of course love your son and care for him. And of course you feel responsible.

And on another note, if your husband left you for another woman.. hard as it is.. it is really the best for you.. think he won't do it to the next woman?  Maybe it is a true blessing for you. The best thing over time is to not be bitter towards him  as your son will see, but really, he is not worth it. Time gives us perspective and heals wounds.

For me, if wants someone else, HIS LOSS.  Yes you have to deal with him because of your son, but the less 'power' you give him to affect your mood and self-esteem, the better. He does not deserve you. Allah is giving you a blessing to not have to be married to him. Yes we are afraid, how will we survive, how will we provide.. but Allah provides. You have family and friends. You are not out on the street.

And as I ponder.. Allah does not need our prayers, remembrances, we do!  The reality is that this life is transient. And no matter what we do, it will not go one forever. We are on our destiny.

If you can see this go to:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PztTA5EVGQU

It is graphic but sometimes it helps me to gain perspective!

Keep coming and visiting..

Jazakallah my sister in Islam.
I am crying listening to both of your advice and I pray that in this month and at this time may Allah (swt) grant you both Jannah Inshallah. I am one of those people who have recently learned it's ok to cry and show weakness, b/c it's all part of our human nature.
I know that Allah's promise is one that will definately come through and that sometimes one has to face difficulties to purify themselves.
I know with all my heart that I'm not going to be dissapointed.
Alhamdullila, I'm living with family and am keeping contacts with my friends. I try to keep busy. I want to go back to school, but don't know what to study, so maybe I'll get a part-time job. Whatever comes my way. My greatest fear is that i'll fail my son. I will continue praying and ask you to also keep me in yr dua's .

Jazakallah.