Duties to Inlaws

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   Jeen you said:
"When will you men stand up for your wives and stop treating them like maids and nurses to just care for you and your families?"

You also said:
"This is very different than the actions in many part of the Islamic world especially Southeast Asia where they get the newly married girl and move here in to the hubands families house and turn her in to a new maid to cook and clean for the whole family. They grooms family also expects her family to pay a large dowry for them which is why in India and Pakistan it is such a burdon to have daughters. Why are these cultural practices takeing place still?"

First and foremost quit judging Islam based on Pakistani and Southeast Asian culture, Islam is neither Pakistani nor Asian religion. Whatever practices they observe (in addition to Islam) in Pakistan or in Asian cultures are an incorporation of Islamic tradition and are not orthodox teachings in which general Muslims are commanded to follow. So please spare us generalizations. Oh BTW if you plan on responding by saying "I wasn't generalizing please look at the last sentence of your first post and your middle sentences to show otherwise.

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Israfil Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 08 September 2003 Status: Offline Points: 3984	Post Options Post Reply Quote Israfil Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 July 2005 at 5:24pm
	Jeen you said: "When will you men stand up for your wives and stop treating them like maids and nurses to just care for you and your families?" You also said: "This is very different than the actions in many part of the Islamic world especially Southeast Asia where they get the newly married girl and move here in to the hubands families house and turn her in to a new maid to cook and clean for the whole family. They grooms family also expects her family to pay a large dowry for them which is why in India and Pakistan it is such a burdon to have daughters. Why are these cultural practices takeing place still?" First and foremost quit judging Islam based on Pakistani and Southeast Asian culture, Islam is neither Pakistani nor Asian religion. Whatever practices they observe (in addition to Islam) in Pakistan or in Asian cultures are an incorporation of Islamic tradition and are not orthodox teachings in which general Muslims are commanded to follow. So please spare us generalizations. Oh BTW if you plan on responding by saying "I wasn't generalizing please look at the last sentence of your first post and your middle sentences to show otherwise. Edited by Israfil

Jenni Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 10 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 705	Post Options Post Reply Quote Jenni Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 July 2005 at 10:17am
	Hi all, just wanted to know what you men thought a wifes resposibility is towards her inlaws. I have been reading that you are not required to cook and clean for them nor to obey them. Just to be kind and respectful. This is very different than the actions in many part of the Islamic world especially Southeast Asia where they get the newly married girl and move here in to the hubands families house and turn her in to a new maid to cook and clean for the whole family. They grooms family also expects her family to pay a large dowry for them which is why in India and Pakistan it is such a burdon to have daughters. Why are these cultural practices takeing place still? When will you men stand up for your wives and stop treating them like maids and nurses to just care for you and your families?
	You cant be a good muslim if you are not decent and have a cold heart. Be a decent and kind person and care for women and children and the elderly.