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    Posted: 03 November 2008 at 2:18pm
Good Afternoon
I really need help. I have been been with my husband
for 28 years, and he left me without saying a word. He
got an apartment and moved out. I know we had problems
like every married couple. But I am in desperate help to
get him back. I love him very much and want him home.
I believe in Allah and pray all day and night to find
the answer. How can he do this to me, and I forgave him
for leaving, but he says he wants to be by himself and live his life. I cry all the time and pray to Allah that
he will want me back. I need a lot of help from someone
with answers why he would do this and not want me. I can
not live without him. I know that if I have to, I will
survive, but it just hurts so much that I want to die.
I do not believe in suicide, so I would never take my own
life, but I need to find out somehow I can go on with my
life, or is their some miracle that can happen to help me. Do all men go through a mid life ordeal and leave
like this and tell us that they are unhappy.
Why are Allah's words on this in the Quran. Please
help me.
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 I suggest that you appeal to those who have intimate knowledge of both you and your husband, because at this critical stage in your life reaching out to strangers may not provide needed moral support or assistance in arbitrating a successful resolution to your troubles. 
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salam.
please take the advice abuayisha has given you.
It is the best thing to do right know.
 This is a critical Family matter so dont go for the advice of strangers.
 Think wise. May the peace of ALLAH be with you.
                                                                             Was'salam.


Edited by Imani - 03 November 2008 at 11:49pm
"But those who believe and do righteous deeds are the best of all creatures."(surah98:7)
peace for all peace for the nation. To Allah indeed we are to return. SALAM
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Assalamu Alaykum,
 
May Allah swt bestow you with patience. I pray Allah swt that he returns to you, soon. Hope you have acted upon Abuayisha's advice.
 
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: �All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
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salam.
sharon i hope that you take the advises given to you.
Put GOD first in all your affairs and you will surely have answers to your problems.
 Stay blessed.
"But those who believe and do righteous deeds are the best of all creatures."(surah98:7)
peace for all peace for the nation. To Allah indeed we are to return. SALAM
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote sharonjundi Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 18 November 2008 at 3:27pm
Hello again,

I can not contact family with the answers for my
husband and I. I have no family left and he has his
brother here. His friends have a lot of influence with
his actions. I am at lose with this situation. I am
trying to just leave him alone but I have no one to turn
to in this situation. We talk, but we have not seen each
other for 6 weeks now. I just do not understand what went wrong and why he does not want to go to counseling
our even try to come home and work things out. I will
always love him, but I just need advice on what I can
do, or whom I can at least talk to about this problem.
Please advise..........

Please explain how a man sees this situation at this
age of life.

Thanks

Sharon
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Salam,
 
I suggest you perform solat hajaat (request) ...
 
Solat hajaat (request) is performed like any other sunnah prayer. It's recitations are also the same.  It can be performed at any time but not during the forbidden times for prayers, the best at midnight after solat tahajjud.  May Allah bless you and guide you ...
 
 
 
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salam
i think you sould do what lily mawar suggested.
"But those who believe and do righteous deeds are the best of all creatures."(surah98:7)
peace for all peace for the nation. To Allah indeed we are to return. SALAM
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