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Hello,

No I do not want him to come and celebrate our
anniversary, if he is not coming back.... That
would be so hard for me to move on in my life.
If he loves me, then he will remember this time
and will want to be with me. But, I think that
his mind is somewhere else. I am sure that he
will avoid this day altogether. He was something
in his head that he wants to be alone in his life
at this time. I pray so much, but if ALLAH
wanted us to be together, I think by now something
would have happened to my husband.... and he would
at least try an effort of showing some kind of hope
for us to be together.   His mind is made up....
I feel at this time that he does not want me in his
life at all..... I am so sad..........It has been
6 months now and he has not made any changes to
want to work things out.... I still do not know
what the main reason is that he left, except he
said that he changed. He does not want
me in his life anymore. I need to accept this now
even though it hurts so much, I have to move forward
in my life. No matter how much I cry, I have to make
myself move on in life.........
May ALLAH bless us all and pray that things will
change and maybe my husband will come back.\

Sharon
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Originally posted by sharonjundi sharonjundi wrote:

Thanks again for all the prayers that you have done for me. I do not believe anything is going to change this
man's decision.... We have a 24 year anniversary on
December 14 this year. I am so hurt and heart broken
and sad today. I know that it will be so difficult for
me on December 14..... I pray for ALLAH to give me
lots of strength on this day..... I know that I will
probably stay in bed crying most of the day.....
May ALLAH bless us and keep us strong in the times of
hardship...............
May ALLAH bless us all..........
Sharon [IMG]smileys/smiley19.gif" align="middle" />
As salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.Crying takes the rust off the heart its okay a wise Imam ounce said.(Alhamduillah) for everything good or bad remember that.Its apart of our short life here on earth.Allah has a cure for your heart ache turn to him.Im sad that you are hurting Try to stay positive on the day of your anniversary take time to reflect on the years Allah have given you two.And again (Alhamduillah)Thank Allah Ta ala for that. Alot of times we never miss the water until the well runs dry.Lets see what happens.Would you be happy if he came over to celebrate we you and still not come back?
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Thanks again for all the prayers that you have done for me. I do not believe anything is going to change this
man's decision.... We have a 24 year anniversary on
December 14 this year. I am so hurt and heart broken
and sad today. I know that it will be so difficult for
me on December 14..... I pray for ALLAH to give me
lots of strength on this day..... I know that I will
probably stay in bed crying most of the day.....
May ALLAH bless us and keep us strong in the times of
hardship...............
May ALLAH bless us all..........
Sharon

Edited by sharonjundi - 09 December 2008 at 2:02pm
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Hi sharon,
 
My Duas are with you..it is hard.. and that's all we can do is lean on Allah and take it day by day...
 
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Hello,
I had a better day today.... I still cry on the way
home from work each day, but I am getting better. I know
that ALLAH is watching over me everyday and that in time
I will be ok. I still miss my husband, but by the strength of ALLAH, I am getting a little better each and
everyday. I pray everyday and hopefully things will change. I know in my heart that if it be ALLAH's Will
for my husband to come back, that it will happen. I am
not duelling on it like I used to in the past. I am
moving forward each and every day.... It is still very
hard to do, but I have no other choice in life, but to
try to accept what has happened and move forward........
It is easy to say this, but in reality, it is so.......
hard to do....... Please keep praying for me, that things
will change in my life and if it is ALLAH's will, then
it will happen soon............. Bring my husband back
or either make me such a strong person to keep on going
in my life.....
May ALLAH bless us all and keep us strong and safe in this lifetime..

Sharon



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Originally posted by sharonjundi sharonjundi wrote:

I have told him how I feel about him.... He knows that I
love him and miss him, but I can not make someone love
me. He said that he has changed in the past year and that he wants to be alone. He said it is nothing that
I did. He just wants to live him life and be alone for
now. I think that is very selfish...........
He knows that I love him.   I have told him many times.
I told him that we should go to counseling. He will not
do any of that. I guess he enjoys being by himself. I
did many things in the past months to try to be with him.
We went out to dinner, to the movies, shopping, and them
all of a sudden, he rejects me.......Like the DEVIL was
inside of him..... He acted to crazy. Then he asked to
come over for dinner for the thanksgiving holiday and
I told him if he felt in his heart that he wanted to be
with us, hew was more than welcome. So he came over.
Then he came over for 3 days after that. Said he was
trying to help around the house. Then I asked him why,
and that were his intentions on still getting a divorce.
Then he said if he had the money, he would have already
gotten it. He said that when he came by the house, that
he guesses it was confusing me. After I had told him,
not to come by and not to be nice to me. So who is the
confused one????????? HIM.........
This man is crazy. What does he want???? So I decided
to just leave him alone and hopely with ALLAH's help,
either he will decide to come home or just leave me alone. I know that I miss him very much, but I try to
stay very busy so I do not cry everyday. I have my
granddaughter, who is 3 years old with me this weekend.
So we have been very busy..... She is such a joy in my
life. I thank ALLAH everyday for her....

May ALLAH bless us all and you all have a wonderful
week...........
Please keep praying for me..........

Thanks again,

Sharon
As salaamulaikum Sister Sharon Jundi.(Alhamduillah)It seems that you are making progress(Inshallah)(Alhamduillah)Dua is the key I am so glad that more and more people are responding to you our brave sister.Yes you are, not alot of people let alone Muslim,would publicly discuss such matters.I aplaud you for that and everybody who has made dua for you.May Allah continue to bless each and every one of us in our times of need(Ameen). Indeed Allah is there for us
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You know, I a taking this class for certification. And you know some of the method defies my logic.. it really does... noty to go into it.. but at times we must laugh at the absurdities of our lives.
 
I am a very serious, intense person and I MUST make efforts to laugh.. really just look at life. We humans do the most absurd things.. we are often so self-absorbed we forget to take a step back and reflect. How often do we focus on the innane-meaningless stuff???
 
I mean really, how many of us are running around in silly, often mindless circles?? I am not talking about those who face serious struggle.. but how often do we make our own lives harder..
 
i say tell him the bus is going, are you on or off.. if not see ya later..
 
 
When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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I will get out the frying pan.......Ha Ha Will that
knock some sense back in him.... I doubt it with this man.   He has his mind up that he wants to alone in this
time of his life. So I will just leave him alone...........
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