Response to Istikhara

Chinky wrote: Assalamu'alaikumI received a marriage proposal from a guy who has wanted to get married to me for a few years now. I prayed Salaatul Istikhaarah and felt that I should agree to marry him. We were almost officially engaged and wedding plans were being discussed. However, just recently a huge argument had erupted between our two fathers, and my father has decided to call it quits. the guy is determined not to give up and convince the elders to agree again, but my father is determined not to agree to this marriage proposal. i have prayed Salaatul Istikhaarah again a few times, and each time I feel that I should trust Allah and not say no to this guy simply because of his father, because the guy himself has never disrespected my dad. I cannot see any solid reason for why I should say no to the guy, as he is an honest, hardworking man, and a practicing muslim. At the same time, since my father is completely against it, I don't want to go against his wishes. My father feels the guy is not right for me since he is not as educated as I am, but we both have the same Islamic and family values, which I feel is more important. I don't know what is the response to my Istikhaara, is it my gut feeling telling me not to say no to this guy, or is it my father's determination to say no? I have had several marriage proposals in the past, but all of them have fallen through for good reason, this is the only guy who has been persistent in marrying me for years now, and he still is, even though he knows my dad is not agreeable. If anyone has any advice, I would really appreciate it. I am in such a confused state, I don't know what to do.

Walaikum Salaam wa rahmatullah

Sis Chinky, may be the happenings are response to the Istikharah, right !

If you go thru the translations of the dua made while Istikharah, in which we also say Allah swt that - You know and i know not. You are the Knower of Hidden things". Also we make dua that if it good for me for both dunya and aakhirah, ordain it and make it easy for me and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge it is bad for
me and for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs (or: for me both in this world and the next), then turn me away from it, [and turn it away from me], and ordain for me the good wherever it may be and make me pleased with it.

As said these situations might be an answer to Istikharah. Allah swt is the Knower of hidden things. So be patient and keep making duas sister. Stand by your father's decision whatever it is.

May Allah swt ease these days for you. Ameen