My mother won’t look at me in hijab

Assalamu Alaikum,

Sister Lameese, once again you're reaching out so ardently to give me
more options with my mother. I did write my mother a long email and
expressed some things about Islam and how hurt I am because of her
actions. Before I would just take it and not say much and wait for her to
calm down, but I have to defend myself this time. If she won't let me talk
on the phone or in person, perhaps she'll read my emails.
I feel if I contacted the priest of the church my mom attends that would
worsen the situation. But again, your willingness to help will not go
unrewarded. It's so difficult knowing you have to respect and obey your
parents so I feel I'm trying to juggle things but as always, Allah's
happiness comes first.
Sister Julia, I share ummziba's sentiments. Fist of all, being able to
admit your shortcomings shows how strong you are. God knows I'm not
a perfect Muslim. It's impossible for anyone to be a perfect Muslim and
God does not expect us to be perfect but ask forgiveness and strive to
better ourselves. May Allah (swt) reward you as well for posting. You are
right, I can't compromise pleasing God for my mother's earthly need.
May God bless all you sisters for your posts. You have no idea how
comforted I am by your words. I'm honored to write to you all.

God Bless,
J.R.

Sister iranhamid,
may Allah be with you inshallah..

It's very difficult, i can understand you.. Answer is so simple and in the same time it's very hard..

Patient is the only answer for these kind of problems.. Inshallah you will achieve this..

i make dua for you sister.

Salam,

About a month or so after I converted to Islam, I wanted to wear the hijab.  I am still a teenager and live at home with my parents.  I never suspected that my mother would have a problem with it, usually she is very understanding.  She took my conversion to islam relatively well.  The first day I put a hijab on, she looked at me and said what would people think of me and she was embarressed by it.  I started crying then.  For quite some time she would criticize me and even stop me from wearing it.  Then, when I moved to college and was by myself, I started to wear the hijab everyday.  I go home, though all the time, and still wear a hijab.  It is sometimes difficult to do so, especially when no one nearby our town is muslim, and no one in my family, not even my brother, who is also muslim, would give me much support to wear the hijab everyday.  Once I built up enough confidence in wearing the hijab while on my own and had trust in Allah (swt) alone, I realized that it was part, but not a major part, of Islam.  The hijab can't be such a central focus, or it takes away from true faith.  When I am at college, people only know me wearing it and and there was not the question of transitioning to wearing it, which made it a lot easier.  Once I get used to wearing it and I am not too worried about it, it seems like other people don't worry to much either.  You just need some space from your family to be ready to wear it.  If anything is done for anyone other than Allah(swt), you will never feel complete and it will always be a distraction from true faith and submission to Allah (swt).  We have to stand firm in Islam and remember how much worse Muhammad (saw) was persecuted and isolated, then wearing a hijab is not that much of a challenge.

Hijab is wonderful, in fact I wear it, and myself have converted to Islam from Catholocism. I have heard many quiestions and cold stone stares but at the end of the day it doesn't make or break me. The head scarf is just that, a head scarf. It does not make me more muslim than a woman who is not wearing it.

Being muslim is giving charity (host a party for your family) , (bring gifts for kids or some food for a nearby shelter), Being muslim is giving thanks to God, (say grace before meals) (a nice word of thanks to others) Being Muslim encourages us to seek knowledge (can u do the heimlich?) Have you registered to vote in your area ?

 

In America it's reported that only 10% of Muslims wear the hijab. Some women feel that when they are doing everything else right they will complete this step.