Wife who is unfaithful

Marriage is a religious contract in Islam; the love is may be may be not proposition!
Most of the time the husband work round the clock and when he is at home they seldom communicate.
It must be a hard to keep up with the bills in Singapore! What was the basis for the marriage?

Things that they spoke about is often about work or when he want her to do his paper work for him. While at night, he only wants her to fulfill his desire and care a less about hers. He never bother to stimulate her before entering and at times is hurts her. Once he is done, he will dozed off.

Would you think that he has gotten some tell tale signs of her premarital monkey business but can�t put the finger on it and just biding time?
If she is guilt ridden she just  won�t get to it!
 He never tell her words of love or show his concern even when the wife is very sick.
She feels empty and no where to pour her sorrows.

After having an abortion! LOL
She don't want to share it with her parents cos she don't want them to know that she is not happy with the marriage, they will look at her husband differently and what she have commited.
Her parents must not have raised her as a proper Muslim who was sleeping around before the marriage. They are a bigger guilty party in this too!
She took care of the husband needs - clothing, meals, house, in laws and etc...
I will be blunt about this she doesn�t have to do these things but the sex part is the main stipulation to make the marriage contract valid. She slept around she will find these issues without much empathy. Personal lube can always come handy, that is the least of the issue here!
Due to all these factors, she claim that she found someone who fills her up with concern, love and pay attention to her needs. This new guy knew that she is a married woman.
LOL all adulteries have excuses but these are lame! Who does she blame for the premarital sex, pregnancy and abortion?

There are lots of K9s for a stray K9 or worst! even  K9 would  protect the offspring!

These are my questions :

1) What will be the punishment for a wife who have committed an adultery and abortion ?
You live in a non Islamic place otherwise the punishment is as follows:

Most places don�t have the enforcement of Quraanic punishments these days so if you need to know what the book calls for--it is as follows and I am not going for the escape clause cuz there is none in this case! It pretty clear..........................
Al-Nour (The Light)

24:2 The woman and the man guilty of adultery or fornication,- flog each of them with a hundred stripes: Let not compassion move you in their case, in a matter prescribed by Allah, if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day: and let a party of the Believers witness their punishment.

With abortions she is looking at her own termination if there could be one cuz I doubt she  and her lover would survive 100 stripes!

2) Should she tell her husband ?

If she wants to kill the meal ticket in a hurry!

3) Can she be forgiven and repent ?

That is $64000 question  only she can answer that if she will own up instead of making excuses!

If you like to know it is woman who makes or  breaks man and ultimately does that to herself!

If you like know the  foundation of Hajj is about the gallant effort and sacrifices of a woman named Hajra in the middle of barren Maccan Hills. What she did for the concern of her child without asking any one to fulfill her own desires that Allah made her effort to be recognized and repeated by millions upon millions  as a ritual to perform their Hajj obligation! And the boy she saved became the progenitor of the great nation that finally brought the Prophet(saw) for us! The mother has three credits against one for dad!

ow should she share about her need and how she feels to the husband ? The husband is don't want to listen to her no matter what is her approach. I ever overheard their conversation once. Her husband tells her off and say 'I dont want to listen' and she wept silently.

I reckon the husband has some telltale signs but he is just going along for the proof!

5) Should she ask for divorce since she is not happy and if she continue or prolonged it, she will get astray.

She shouldn�t have gotten married in first place and she got to get out ASAP!

As her friend, I am worried about her well being and don't want her to 'go down the drain'. Probably you can give me tips and advise how to help her.
I am not married and uncertain the hukum of marriage.

Thank You,
She is already in it and taking her husband with it !

For starter you need to tell her that she is in the hole and she should stop digging!!!