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    Posted: 04 May 2008 at 6:04pm
As-salam-A-Lai-Kum,

I need some guidance on what to do. I am almost 32 years old and still not married. My mother does not seem so concerned in finding me a suitable match. My father passed away several years ago. I have tried searching for myself through several matrimonial sights but only come across people who either loose interest in me or are too moderinzed in there ways. I am very tired of searching and also very alone. Can anyone please offer me any advice on what I should do. I don't have very much contact with the Muslim community and really don't know anyone who can help me. I pray to Allah and ask for guidance but I must not be understanding something because I can't find the right person that will marry me.
WaSalam
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Asalam Alaikum,
 
Welcome to the Forum. The dilemma the dilemma-finding a match in the US if you are more or less on your own.
 
Now is there a masjid you do to? Can the Imam act as your wali? some to try to match people up. But it is difficult.
 
wHere do you live?
When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi
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salam alikom 
 
hi   sisters 
 
dont worry my sister enshah  allah you will marry in weeks >  i am mohamed  from egypt  . i  can  help you  to marry . i have  more friends want to marry & they  are   serious  .
 
i want you to conact  me  to my email  till we can  sort out  meeting  .
 
 
your brother mohamed
 
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Asalamu alaykum Alinea, keep up your prayers and trust in Allah.  If you seek to marry a muslim man, just be sure that you are careful about who you chose.  Is it possible that if you think you have found someone your mother would cooperate to check the guy out?  Is it just the search for the right husband that she is not interested in doing?  Do you have any brothers or sisters that can help you?

Inshallah your prayers will be answered and you will find a suitable husband soon.

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Hey Mohamed!
Where are you in Egypt? You sound  like someone I have heard about! LOL
 
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Asalam Alaikum sister,
I can understand your worries. And it can be very lonely as a single woman.
Try to be involved with the muslim community if your circumstances allow. Try not to be disheartened. The fact that you have yet to meet the right partner is not to be seen as a failure. Instead, see it that there has been no one good enough for you....yet. Because I'm sure Allah has not forgotten you, He is preparing that 'special someone', and He perhaps is testing you too. Don't accept any old dross,to change your single status. Be patient.
On a lighter note... remember that marriage also is no picnic. It takes a great deal of effort from both parties for it to be the success Allah wishes.
Good luck. Let us know how things go for you.
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hi  martha  & everyone  
 
i am mohamed  from cairo . i was living in england  ( manchester )  i dont think  you know me  .  anyway    i want  to help   any muslim . woman or man . & enshah allah she can find good muslim .
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Assalammu 'Alaykum sister Alinea!
Allah states in the Qur'an that: "Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity...." (24:26). Always have husnudzhan, believe that Allah loves you and only wants to give you the best.
Getting married is not an easy matter, it is an act of worship and there are a lot we must learn in order to be successful in that particular form of worship. It's not a day journey, we all really need a lot to prepare. maybe this is one of the reasons He hasn't given you a husband yet. He's preparing you and your husband to be so that you both are completely ready when the time comes...
May Allah give us patience and make us see beauty in every condition He places us, ....May He answer all your prayers and ease everything you do,
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