Genetics and homosexual behaviour

Sorry - my reply (above) came after a few days away from the computer and while I was still reading through the thread. Hope it doesn't seem too insensitive, placed where it is.

Ummziba - you are obviously very brave and very kind. I believe Allah tells Muslims to spend time with "the poor" - maybe this also includes "the unfortunate" or "the lonely and confused". How else can people be guided except by kindness and friendship?

Keep up the good work - you have lots of friends here.

Kim...

W's UmmZiba,

I know you did not read what I wrote carefully and I know you are very upset because of your situation. I am happy that you still love your brother. It is a very difficult situation for your whole family I am sure.

My reply was not aimed at you at all.

I agree that they should close this thread. It is causing you a lot of pain and it is not necessary for this topic to be here anyway. Insha Allah they close this.

UmmZiba I think you have a beautiful white heart.

Lameese

Maybe you should have, once again, read my words more clearly. I siad, "I know gay people" because I work in healthcare. I did not say I have close personal gay friends nor just gay friends.

Please stop your word as my own. And as I said, I do not agree with it at all. But I do feel bad for them.

Lameese

Bismillah

Wa'alaikumu Salaam dear Sister Ummziba!

What can I possibly comment... I could only take a deep breath and heavily breath it out having read your share of thoughts. Wonder if ever your brother had a chance to read them would he also feel inner pain and ponder.

Having been brought up amongst non-Muslim friends, rejected by a Muslim father and showered with love by a Christian Mother and a step-brother it also took me a long time to arrive at the meaning of the following verse:

O ye who believe! take not the Jews and the Christians for your friends and protectors: They are but friends and protectors to each other. And he amongst you that turns to them (for friendship) is of them. Verily Allah guideth not a people unjust. (5:51)

I cannot but agree that we do not just turn our back on them. We do not approve their wrongdoing either. We remind them and invite them in ways that are best... with wisdom and beautiful preaching, as we are instructed in the Qur'an. Regardless of our love, respect, care and concern it is up to them whether they want to respond to our invitation or ignore us, embrace us or turn our backs on us, cherish our love or distance themselves from us, acknowledge the Supreme Authority or seek temporary amusement of this world.

We have to return to the story of Ibrahim (peace be upon him) and his father, to the story of Noah (peace be upon him) and his son, the story of Lut (peace be upon him) and his wife and a beautiful story of Yusuf (peace be upon him) and his brothers... These were the Prophets (peace be upon them all), who were not without hearts, feelings of love and care towards their loved ones. They were Messengers with a clear Message calling people to Allah, calling people to do right and repel wrong.  Wasn't the Quraish the very family of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), waging the war against their own blood. 

Be patient, dear Sister, you are not alone, insha Allah. Don't you get even more confident that Allah is setting you on the Rigth Path, which may at times be as you said "the hardest one of all" but undoubtedly straightest and most deserving all the hardship, insha Allah. 

Not sure whether I managed to shed any light at all, but must admit that your thoughts will have me thinking for some time...

Wasalaam.