Uncontrollable Anxiety.Plz advise

Assalam Alaikum dear sisters,

I suffer from extreme anxiety and unnecessarily worry about things that I have no control. I try to pray regularly and pray to Allah to help me curb those feelings . When I miss prayers I constantly feel guilty about it . To be honest I feel I m sometimes lazy for not doing salah. Any words of wisdom here about how to acheive willpower and control over my thoughts.

Jazak Allah

Shukriya

As'Salamu Alaikum,

Sister Hayfa, does martial arts really help? I donno, so was asking of it.

Sister Samya,

Go thru this whole thread - we have few tips there to gain concentration.

http://www.islamicity.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=7552& ;PN=1&TPN=6

Its very good to know that u try to offer your salah regularly. But this laziness is nothing but whisperings of satan, which tend us to delay. How can satan allow you to prostrate. When u jerk those thoughts and stand up for salah, then it itselves is a Jihad. Prepare yourselves for salah before Adh'aan or soon after Adh'aan. Answer to the call for the prayers {Adh'aan} and offer it. A sort of happiness that we gain during, is unexpressable. Do try it sister.

 You must be knowing that Allah swt, loves that salah which is offered in time. And just recall yourselves, those hadith which explain us the punishments of those who delay or miss there salah. We then hasten ourselves to offer it.

Salah is a sort of communication between a believer and Allah. When we stand for offering salah, we stand folding our hands as a humble slave. We make dua - {Surah -Fataha} , and recite other chapters too.Don't u love to stand before your Lord and thank him for his bestowings ?  Just go thru the above link of the thread. Also its previous pages . Its better, if your start up from first page itself , as it may be helpful to u alot - insha-Allah.

To get rid of laziness, we have a dua . Kindly go thru - Dua thread or daily dua { I donno the name of that thread exactly}. Its at Basics of Islam section. That dua is like this

Allahumma innee a'oozubika minal hammi wal huzni wal ijzi wal kasali wal bukhli wal jubni wa zal'id daini wa ghalabatir rijali.

 Meaning of this dua , though not exact -- but we seek Allah swt's  refuge  from sorrow , troubles, laziness , helplessness, being  miser,  being coward .

Try to busy your heart with any of the Dhikrs, even during your other jobs. For, it keeps away from the whisperings of satan.

May Allah swt guide us. Ameen.

Salaam Sisters,

Thank you all very much for your invaluable suggestions. I greatly admire you for your inspirational thoughts and comments and Insha allah we try my best to act on them. I will Insha Allah adopt the following regime on daily basis and update you with the progress I make.

1. Offer Salah  five times daily.
2. Recite the Dua that was suggested by sister seekshidayath
3. Replace my thoughts with Dhikr.
4. Exercise[ I never did in the past]

That is it for now I guess.

To answer some of the qs.

Sister Hayfa I currently live in IL and I have installed the Adhan software that is very helpful.

Sister Lovesakeena I believe Benzodiazepines that are used for treating GAD and other anxiety related disorders do not treat the root cause of anxiety and have lot of side effects especially addictive potential and somnolence.I have never tried them and Inshal Allah My Allah save me from Satan that I think fill my mind with anxieties and uncertainties about daily life things and trivialities.

Thank you all for the warm Welcome. May Allah bless you all.

I will keep u posted.

Jazak Allah.

Samya

Dear Samya,

What Lovesakeenya tells you above is very likely to be the problem.  Generalised Anxiety Disorder is not uncommon, but can make life very tough for the one who suffers from it.

The National Institute of Mental Health has an excellent free e-book on Anxiety Disorders.

See:

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/anxiety-disorder s/summary.shtml

The WebSite in general is very useful too.

Cassie