Arranged-Marriage Series

"What does that say about arranged marriages??? How does it repress sexual behaviour?"

 

Well for one, as mentioned to me previously a woman and a man cannot be alone, and this done to control the potentiality of pre-martial sex, and/or the possibility that parties would engage in sinful behavior. I was even told on the spiritual side of it, the devil is always an unwed man and woman when they are alone. Now, correct me if I'm wrong as I am still learning Islam but a true woman is covered and is not showing any "sexual" aspects about her so as to control the possibilities of a man falling into sin and so forth. So if she, the Wali (or what I call mediator) and the man are at dinner the prospective male cannot really be physically attracted to her because her face and other parts of her aren't shown (is this dependent upon cultural interpretation of hijab?).

 

What I call sexual repression is that all the elements that are associated with natural human function are excluded. For instances, a woman's neck, eyes, hands, legs, and even smell are attractive and sexual parts on her body, but this doesn't mean she or the man will have sex. Now of course I'm not saying Islamic law does this with the intent to harm  people but perhaps this law was implemented at a time where behavior was rampant who knows. As a human I'm attracted to the whole body of a woman however, there are things that humans naturally repress themselves based off culture. For example if I happen to be talking to a woman who has her face covered I and I'm talking with her in the interest of marriage I may find this odd but that is because I'm neither Muslim nor raise in the culture. I hope this long winded paragraph made sense.

 

"Its so not a random generalisation!  You disagree that the average 'dater' dates approx. 4-5 ppl before settling down?"

 

If there is validity in research I wouldn't disagree, I just disagree with how you are presenting them.

 

 

"By biased, I mean what you might percieve to be biased."

 

When you use I, me, we, it ceases to be an objective opinion. Therefore it is biased just like my opinions, but thanks for the info they were good reads!