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Akhe Abdullah ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Male Joined: 19 November 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1252 |
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Duane ![]() Groupie ![]() ![]() Male Joined: 27 March 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 70 |
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As Salamu Alaikum,Ali.
I have to agree with the majority of advice you are getting from the brothers. I would like to add that I have married in the past for beauty. This was before I came to Islam. None of these marriages worked out. Beauty is a transient thing and is one of the ways we are misguided in this world. Duane |
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Akhe Abdullah ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Male Joined: 19 November 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1252 |
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abuayisha ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105 |
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The Prophet (saw) said: �A man is on the deen of his friend, watch out who your friends are.� Tirmidhi 2378, Abu Dawood 4833
Examine her family and friends, as this may give a good indication of values and belief. Keeping in mind that most men desire an attractive wife, emphasis should be placed on her religious practice and not only family status, beauty and wealth. You will never like everything about your wife, but look to the good aspects in her and overlook those faults which you dislike. Generally people lie for fear of reprisal, so be kind and gentle; hopefully she then will not have to worry about her being deceitful. I do not necessary see aggressiveness as a poor quality as long as harshness does not accompany this attribute.
Like Pati mentioned indeed the opposite can be said of men, and frankly I'm surprise to hear of these complaints coming from a man about women. It is most often, sadly, the reverse.
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Pati ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Female Joined: 10 April 2009 Location: Spain Status: Offline Points: 304 |
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Hi Ali77,
I think that your comment is not fair, because we as women could say the opposite, that men are nice until we sign the marriage contract, and after that they don't accept any responsability, or face any problem. Worst than that, we have to go ahead with our lives and the lives of our children... you can read the Women's forum, and you will realise how much difficult the situations of some of them are because of their husbands.
My suggestion? Before getting married, try to talk with her about everything. If you are able to keep on a conversation with someone for more than 2 or 3 hours, and you dind't feel bored, it's a good starting point. But it's impossible to keep the good face forever.
Try to ask her about what would she do in several situations, or how does she plans her marriaged life... and try not to tell her how do you think that the marriage should be. I mean, this way, you will get her answer and not the answer you would like from her.
In any case, and unfortunately, there is no way to be sure that the other person is the right one. Just take your time and don't get a quick decision after meeting the first woman.
Other thing: the perfect woman or the perfect man doesn't exist. Just look for your perfect woman, the one who can give you a peaceful and great life.
All the best,
Patricia
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Ali77 ![]() Newbie ![]() ![]() Male Joined: 19 April 2009 Location: Sudan Status: Offline Points: 29 |
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How are you I want to ask you about how I can choose
my wife?because I think all the try to appear well infrontof us but after marrage they appear as their nature sharp and lier and aggreesive and illtreatment. Edited by Ali77 - 12 July 2009 at 8:36am |
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abuayisha ![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105 |
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"I would never want to be a boy again. It was difficult enough the first time." Ditto!
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