How do I stop getting angry at my little brother?

Asked by Reader on Mar 30, 2026 Topic: Family & Parenting

Dear Hadi,

When I’m playing with my two year old brother, he makes me angry, and I have trouble controlling my emotions. What should I do to help him learn the rules of playing the beyblades (it's a popular Japanese spinning top toy), and while keeping my emotions together?

Dear Reader,

You did not mention how old you are, but we assume you are somewhat youngish.  It is really important to understand that you simply cannot hold a two year old responsible for not following the rules of playing with Beyblades.  Beyblades is recommended for children 8 and up; sometimes five year olds can play with supervision.  A two year old should not be expected to understand how to play with these toys.  

Your focus needs to be on controlling your emotions.  Please talk with a parent, teacher, or counselor about the trouble you're having with getting angry.  It's important that an adult help you deal with these feelings.  In the meantime, we suggest you do not play with beyblade toys with your two year old brother if you can't do so without getting upset with him.  

Your main responsibility right now is to be kind and merciful with your brother.  If a game or toy makes you angry with him, then do not play it with him.  You need to focus on having good feelings toward him, and making him have good feelings toward you.  As you both get older, you will have a lifetime insha'Allah to be best friends and to talk and play together.  However, this can only happen if you plant the seeds of that friendship now.  If your little brother grows up afraid of you or thinking that you are mean, you have lost much more than you would gain from playing with Beyblades now.

In peace.