My Take: Defending TLC's 'All-American Muslim' against Muslim complaints

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For the last decade, Islam has been under a lot of scrutiny, and understandably so. When you've got terrorists all over the world declaring war on America and the West in the name of Islam, it's only natural that people will have questions.

But this reasonable concern has rapidly turned into irrational suspicion, with anti-Muslim groups seizing on the opportunity to paint all Muslims in America as radical-loving, violence-approving foreigners.

The problem is that the response from American Muslims has been about as effective as Herman Cain's PR strategy in the face of sexual harassment allegations. Instead of pooling our resources to combat radicalism, or taking a more active role in our communities so that other Americans better understand us, we've resorted to defense tactics.

We tell people that the Quran is being taken out of context. We focus on efforts to try to "educate" the American public. And we desperately cling to the idea that if people just had a better grasp of the facts on Islam, they wouldn't buy into anti-Muslim propaganda.

Unsurprisingly, none of that has changed Americans' view of Islam.

So when I heard that TLC was doing a reality show about several American Muslim families, I was intrigued. The show wasn't going to feature scholars refuting the (ridiculous) claims made about Islam. It was going to show regular Muslim families living in America. It was going to show, rather than simply tell, people about Muslims and Islam.

After three weeks of airing, "All-American Muslim" has done just that. Whether it was Mr. Aoude prepping his pregnant wife for that hectic hospital trip, or newlyweds Jeff and Shadia worrying about how their families will get along, it has shown viewers the single most important truth that will change the perceptions of Muslims: We are just like everyone else.

There has been widespread praise from TV critics, calling the show "intimate and heartfelt" and "as good as it gets" and praising TLC for how it has "upended the conventions of reality television."

The show's premiere had 1.7 million viewers, making it the No. 2 program in its time slot among key demographics and scoring TLC's best Sunday prime time performance in more than a year.

Predictably, the show was also met with harsh and unfair criticism. Anti-Muslim groups wasted no time citing this as another example of Muslims trying to "take over" America.

This was expected. What wasn't expected was the reaction from some other American Muslims.

"The families aren't Muslim enough."

"They aren't good role models."

"They don't represent all American Muslims."

Is the show a perfect cross-section of the American Muslim demographic? Are they the most religious families? Is it full of people you aspire to be one day?

No, of course not. It's reality TV. It's entertainment. We American Muslims ought to look at it in the grand scheme of things instead of just criticizing the show by saying it "doesn't represent me."

You're right. It doesn't represent you.

That's because no TV show, no organization, no movement is ever going to represent you better than you can represent yourself.

"All-American Muslim" is not going to change the image of Muslims on its own. But it's got the right idea. It's premised on the fact that people judge a group not just on its beliefs, but also on their interactions with members of that group.

So if you don't think "All-American Muslim" represents you, then go out into your community and show people what being Muslim is all about, from your perspective. Whether it's a book club or a basketball league, we can all have our own "All-American Muslim" moments.

The most important take-away from a show like "All-American Muslim" is that we Muslims should focus our efforts on showing average Americans that we share far more in common with them than some would like them to believe.

And you don't need a TV show to do that, you just have to have the courage to break out of your shell and share in those experiences with your American brethren.

Don't treat TLC's reality show as the only hope for changing our image, or as our one shot at showing America what Islam is all about. Don't treat it as needing to be a flawless, immaculate portrayal of Muslims in America.

Treat it as a first step. Consider it a new approach. Look at it as the beginning of the long journey we have ahead, in changing the negative stereotypes about Muslims in America.

The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of Khurram Dara.


Khurram Dara is the author of "The Crescent Directive: An essay on improving the image of Islam in America," coming this winter (Tensile). He tweets @KhurramDara

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Older Comments:
As I white muslim - american born - I couldn't agree more. I am the only muslim I know LIKE ME. Islam is for everyone and practiced in many diferent ways with the same CORE BELIEFS.....the rest are decisions you have to make on your own.
And MashALLAH....only ALLAH can judge one but Allah knows what its like to be me..........



Salaams :
Dear Muslims who have a negative opinion about the existence or the families in this show: Are you yourselves good role models? Allah (swt) alone can judge each one of us, please do not sabotage the attempts of the people doing this reality show to prove that American Muslims do not make livelihoods out of carrying bombs under our hijab or that our men beat their wives on a daily basis or have harems in the basement. This show is to show that we are people too, that we have loving families and relationships as do the Christians, Jews, and other faith following folk. Please do not prove the naysayers right by criticizing and reviling these attempts. YOu will just prove the haters right!

ASA I appreciate the person's right to opinion that wrote this, but what is wrong with the show is the same thing that is wrong with all such strategies for giving a true presentation of Islam to the people of America. It reminds me of when immigrant Muslim organizations got together years ago, decided to back George W. Bush for President, and then represented their own view as that of "American Muslims". The result was disasterous. As a Muslim in America who is an African American, and has been so for 40 years, I found the imagery of the show reprehensible, and it certainly doesn't represent me and the third of all Muslims in America that I am part of, and as you have stated this is not an uncommon reaction. Nor all all Muslims in a shell somewhere in America rather than openly manifesting our way of life in the society that we are part of, as we claim a space in the land. Personally, I'd rather the depiction of who we are in America be based upon the diverse and complex face of Muslim Americans, rather than an offensive depiction of reality which, like all shows of its ilk, is not worth watching. There is a lot more than can be said, but personally I need to get back to functioning in the real world.That the author found such reactions surpising just goes to show how out of touch with the Muslim American reality He or she is - just like the show's producers.

Unfortunately, I think the author of this piece falls into the trap that Islamaphobes set for American Muslims. She asserts that Muslims have not done enough to counter stereotypical representations of Islam in America so we need TLC to do it for us. What about the myriad of Muslim-American organizations and scholars who came out against the attacks of 9-11? What about the community sponsored blood drives, interfaith gatherings and food pantries operated by Muslim Americans? Just because the media doesn't acknowledge it doesn't mean it isn't happening. While I understand the TLC reality show seeks to combine reality with entertainment, the show at this point is a misrepresentation of the American Muslim community. It focuses on Arab Americans in suburban Detroit. What about the Muslim Americans of Asian decent? Or African American converts, both of whom make up a larger proportion of the community than Arab Americans.
While I appreciate TLC casting the Muslim American community in a "normal" light, our situation at the present time is too dire to rely on "entertainment TV" to get our point across.

Mr. Khurram Dara has hit the nail squarely on its head.

He has taken away the need for me to write a similar set of thoughts. Thank you.

I heard the Muslim criticisms earlier - only Shi'a.

I saw it yesterday for the first time. Others did, too. Some language was rough. But we are not representing what should be, but what is, right?

Also, this is not the last note on who Muslims are. The Shi'a thing is the numbing rant of unIslamic Muslims. It's been going on for 30 years. What were the Sunnis doing? What stopped them for doing this same thing? Besides, how does one know who is Shi'a on the show?

Of course, having an African American family would have made the reality more real?

Further, having a professional family would have also brought in another real flavor.

Besides, the reality approach is a smart approach. I think it is easier to produce than to write weekly sitcoms. So, we now have a program.

It's a welcome start. And about time, too!