Assalaamu�alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

Maybe it's a human nature, never satisfied with what is happening to them. But because of those things, this world became alive and full of dynamics and increasing the breadth of science.

Just imagine the amount of money (maybe worth billions dollars) in circulation worldwide per day and how many thousands of jobs created just for various reasons some people want to lose weight, while some others with various reasons want to raise the weight. Some are trying to make their skin become white, while others traveled far away to tropical countries for sunbathing on the beach so that their skin went black. Some did facial plastic surgery and other body parts to make it look beautiful like an angel, and make other people's astonishment, their biological child profile is much different from the profile of their beautiful mother. And so on ..... so on.

So also our case, a friend who wants a girl, contrary to my desire (Alhamdulillah already accomplished), boys. I got him without spending a relatively high cost, I mean just normal.

30 years ago our first child was born, a girl, of course very fun because the child likes other girls, cute and healthy. But when pay attention to some close friends and one of my elder brother, their child entirely (3) girls, a sense of worry arises. How could I not, we plan to have just 2 children and of course in order to varied, have a son became our target.

Well since then, the search for information and articles on pregnancy and how to get the boy was started, it's not easy, because at that time I did not know yet "the internet".

Qur�an Surah-53 (An Najm or The Star),

Verse-45:

"And that He created pairs of men and girls,"

Verse-46:

"Of semen, if emitted."

The Qur'an Surah above explain how the human was created, but how can from a same of semen can be created male and female?

According to the articles that I've read and the movies I've watched, sperm or semen turns out aside from the fluid (semen) is also composed of two types of chromosome, the chromosome-X and chromosome-Y are shaped like a tadpole or frog larvae and can only be seen with the help of microscope. 1 cc of sperm or semen has population of millions those two types of chromosomes.

The posture of Chromosome-Y is slim and agile movements, while Chromosome-X fatter and slower movement than Chromosome-Y, but it is relatively more longevity.

As for the inside of the uterus in women who were infertile, usually there is only single egg cell or ovum (can be more in exceptional circumstances) that is placed by Allah Almighty on the wall of the womb (QS 22.5) and only contain chromosome-X.

If the semen is emitted in the direction of the egg cell (as mentioned QS-53, Verses 45 & 46), then only one of the tens of million chromosome-X or Y that's united (marries) with the egg cell.

After "the marriage" happen, then a few tens million less one "chromosome sperm", become bachelor forever till the death come, its pity because no polyandry or polygamy among them.

If the lucky one of "chromosome-X sperm" marries the only one "chromosome-x ovum", then a female fetus will be created. Whereas when "chromosome-x ovum" is married by "chromosome-y sperm", then a male fetus will be created.

From the limited knowledge above, I conclude that Allah Almighty gives us opportunity and hope to have children with sex as we want.

On the advice of another article, more than a year before my wife's contraceptives removed (we plan to have 2 kids with age difference of 4 years), and I am no longer willing to help the wife do the jobs of women and always resolve the family issue without consulting with her, and behave as if my career is on the rise. This is done so "vagina" our wives more permissive to our "chromosome-Y sperm" instead of "X-chromosome sperm". Also in order the population of our "chomosome-Y sperm" become much bigger than the population of "chromosome-X  sperm".

After the contraceptives is released, we make love perfectly normal, but when ejaculation, the sperm is emitted as far as possible from the ovum of our wife, that is at vagina's entrance (sorry). Of course we hope by this way, "chromosome-Y sperm" that much more agile and much larger population than the "chromosome-X sperm" will win the race of "200mm Sprint".

Now after 30 years my wife (almost without me) to take care hard-earned of them, Alhamdulillah our first child (daughter) was graduated as bachelor of Design Communication Visual and a second child (boy) was graduated as bachelor of Economy Management and both have a good career. Now we're busy taking care of our third (bonus) child (daughter), that was born 8 years later after our second child, she just start study in International Business Management.

There is a sense of pride when our efforts and wishes are granted by Him, let alone at least there are 3 colleagues were successful after following the ways that I did, the first two their children are female.

From the above experience I conclude that we're given the opportunity to choose the sex of our child, but their way of life are absolutely prerogative the Creator.

Dear NABA,

Allah SWT creates 2 types of chromosome in our sperm, means He gives us a chance to have girl or boy. I knew this chance was almost impossible, but I decided to take this opportunity. With the methode that I wrote, surrendered and praying, finally He bless us to have second child, a boy. Supposing Sayyidina Umar Al Khattab knew about this method (May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala forgive me), of course he would not do as mentioned by QS16.58-59, but everything are already written in "Lauhul Mahfudz".

Wassalaam.