Assalaamoalaikum Harun. 

Full of Hopes wrote: I wish I could help but somehow I can't understand your problem clearly. Maybe if you explain more someone might give an advice.

 

I agree.

 

I hope that you will continue to work things out with your wife. 

 

Are you asking, if you get a divorce, then would there be another muslim sister who will be willing to marry you after having the knowledge that you are living  from pay check to pay check?

 

Hmmm. if this is your question, then yes, there are plenty of sisters who will marry a GOOD MUSLIM brother who is struggling financially. 

 

I hope that you have now found more peace in your marriage. 

 

Would you be so kind as to spell that out for me?

And that I find absurd. I read that the mahr in those cultures can be unreasonably high also, so that it's not uncommon to start saving up money as early as in your teens, and that some men work (abroad) for years just to save up more money, so that they can afford get married, basically.

abuayisha wrote: Other places if he has a paycheck-to-paycheck salary, but is making a living wage relative to her expectations then there shouldn't be a problem.  I left what Muslim women are attracted to blank because it undoubtedly differs greatly.

 

And let's be thankful that it is so. I don't want to seem stingy, and of course one would want one's wedding to be nice and everything, but the cost if it all should be kept within the bounds of reality. At least in my case it'd have to.