Passed away parent
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Topic: Passed away parent
Posted By: Hafeesa
Subject: Passed away parent
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:57pm
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Salaam alekum sisters and brothers, My mother passed away very recent from cancer. I do allot of duas for her mashaalah. I dont cry and mourn over her . ButI like to keep her memories alive with me by writting poems sharing her pics with family members To make this short . A family member of mine says that , It is haraam to do all this, I should just have a good cry over it and leave her alone. Offcourse I dont want to do anything against Islam, Is it wrong of what Iam doing? |
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Posted By: seekshidayath
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 7:02pm
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As Salamu Alaikum
Welcome to Islamicity. Though, i may not have a direct answer to your question { I wish you ask this to a scholar and look for the ruling} - but would like to share my opinion Sister, you must be knowing that mourning includes feelings as well as apparent signs. Mourning is not permitted in Islam,for more than 3 days. When you pen your memories of your mother,it may refresh your grief. Is n't it ! Moreover a mother is a very special person in one's life. We can't stop getting emotional when we remember her. Anyways, these were my thoughts over the topic, still i insist that you question this to a scholar to get the ruling if its haraam or halaal. ------------- Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: �All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent." |
Posted By: abuayisha
Date Posted: 10 February 2010 at 7:12am
| The burden of finding a ruling is upon those who claim her practice is haraam. What is their evidence the manner which she is mourning her loss is forbidden in Islam...may Allah, Most High, have mercy on your mom and reward you for your patience. |
Posted By: seekshidayath
Date Posted: 10 February 2010 at 9:38am
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Sister, have a look at this ruling. Insha Allah, the last lines shall bring you smiles
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/82357 - http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/82357 ------------- Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: �All the descendants of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent." |
Posted By: Hafeesa
Date Posted: 10 February 2010 at 10:03am
| Thak u very much for all the replies . This was very helpfull. |
Posted By: peacemaker
Date Posted: 10 February 2010 at 7:09pm
Walaikum Salam sister,
Welcome to the forum!
May Allah grant your mother the best place in the hereafter. And may Allah bless you with patience.
Reciting Qur'an, say Surah Ya-sin and Al-Kahf, would comfort you, insha Allah.
Peace ------------- Then which of the favours of your Lord will ye deny? Qur'an 55:13 |
Hafeesa wrote:Posted By: Hayfa
Date Posted: 10 February 2010 at 9:10pm
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Hafeesa My Duas for you. I don't think you will forget your mom. She obviously "influenced" who you are as a person. I know I remember my parents at different moments. Like we've had a huge snow storm and I have always loved to shovel snow. And it made me smile to think of my dad as we all went out and shoveled as kids. The memories will always be there. Sometimes I "sound" like my mom..  For me its a chance to remember to thank Allah for having the parents I did. And, welcome to the Forum. ------------- When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Rumi |
Posted By: abuayisha
Date Posted: 11 February 2010 at 7:27am
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Posted By: Full of Hopes
Date Posted: 11 February 2010 at 12:16pm
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
اللهم صلي على نبينا محمد و على آله و صحبه و سلم
Dear sister, welcome to the IC, may Allah have mercy on your mum and all os us. May Allah forgive her and be pleased on her.
Make duaa for her and sadaqah..
I hope they answered your questions. A sister told me that keeping photos for memories is not fine because it is what Christians do and we as Muslims should not do like them. I do not have any more information about this from a scholar or a knowledgeble person to tell you..
writing potery on her will make you feel better and smile.. even drawing but the BEST is to recite Allah's name and pray for her.
may Allah bless you and her..
-------------  And whoever seeks a religion other than Isl�m, it will never be accepted of him, and in the Hereafter he will be one of the losers(3:85)
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Posted By: Hafeesa
Date Posted: 12 February 2010 at 9:36am
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Dear sisters and brothers thank you very much for the informative replies. ..
This was very helpfull ;) |