Help me.......
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Topic: Help me.......
Posted By: md.faheem
Subject: Help me.......
Date Posted: 06 October 2009 at 1:07pm
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Dear brothers and sisters in Islam.. Pls. help me in finding a match for my sister age 23, height 5.3" Undergraduate, color medium fair, basically from a middle class family here in hyderabad, india separated within 3 months of marriage due to unavoidable circumstances. Many proposals are turning down due to my sister's color and dowry demands here locally. Pls. help me out........ |
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Posted By: fais
Date Posted: 07 October 2009 at 8:04am
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salam,
Brother my duas are for you,i have suggestion for you,ask her to continue her studies,give her some time do adjust and than think of second marraige,i mean dont just look for a life partner but rather look for a new life which will give her peace,its a hard time for her so just be with her emotionally and make her feel that she is not helpless.
Have faith in Allah,insha she will get better than what she lost.this is a hadith also.
Regards
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Posted By: md.faheem
Date Posted: 07 October 2009 at 10:07am
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My dear brother, From the bottom of my heart i thank you very much for your encouraging message. I feel proud to be a member of this forum and to know that there is someone out there who could also feel the pain and agony of both me and my sister. Presently we are going through a very tough time but, never losing trust in Allah Subhana wa taala. Insha'allah as you have said, she will indeed get better what she had lost.. Thanks once again and may allah bless you and in your future endeavors. |
Posted By: fais
Date Posted: 07 October 2009 at 10:47pm
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Salam,
yes give her some time,dont hurry for another man,its not easy for a woman like men to forget her ex husband,so be patient.the best will knock your door when it is the best time.insha allah.and remember me in your dua when the best knocks your door.
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Posted By: ak_m_f
Date Posted: 11 October 2009 at 11:51pm
You people need to let go of Hindu pagan cultures. |
md.faheem wrote:Posted By: martha
Date Posted: 12 October 2009 at 5:16am
'Brother fais, my duas are for you, I have suggestion for you, continue to work, take time to adjust and then think of 2nd marraige, I mean dont just look for a life partner but rather look for a new life which will give you peace, it's a hard time for you and we are with you emotionally to make you feel that you are not helpless.
Have faith in Allah and insha'allah you will get better than what you lost...this is a hadith also.'
Brother...this was really my advice to you in another topic but you didn't seem to understand what I was trying to say.  Allah hafiz------------- some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set |
Posted By: martha
Date Posted: 12 October 2009 at 5:21am
Yes, too much pressure is put on families to come up with large dowry's. This is not Islamic teaching. SO many people in these Asian countries are starving whilst others spend thousands of dollars/pounds on a celebration. Most certainly if you are not a family of means your social status is practically non existant. This extravagence is a sin. ------------- some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set |
Posted By: fais
Date Posted: 12 October 2009 at 5:58am
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Yes sister,
i will consider your advise,finally what allah has decided will happen no matter how much i try,so lets hope for the best.
Regards
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Posted By: martha
Date Posted: 12 October 2009 at 6:24am
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Yes brother, marsha'allah.
I am glad we are back on the same track ------------- some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set |
Posted By: md.faheem
Date Posted: 12 October 2009 at 10:17am
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Sister Martha, What you have stated is very much true. Our muslim culture is converging more and more towards the culture of non-muslims these days. Hence being a matter of concern, Ulema's debating and holding congregations to enlighten the people regarding the issue and more is falling on deaf ears. As a matter of fact, each individual is well aware of his actions but, totally ignorant towards his duties, the teachings of Islam and the teachings of Prophet (SAWS) and the last day of judgement.. May Allah bless one and all... |
Posted By: martha
Date Posted: 13 October 2009 at 12:44am
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Salaams md.faheem,
It is really sad we don't follow correctly. ------------- some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set |
Posted By: md.faheem
Date Posted: 13 October 2009 at 11:37am
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w/salaam, martha... Yes, it is pathetic to see people not following the basic teachings of Islam and being more materialistic in their actions....  |