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 Salaam O Alaikum Rookiyah 
 If I offended you I apologize.  My comments were not targeted at you only trying to express my own person feelings, opinions, and beliefs. Hopefully this time I'll do a better job. I also wanted to point out one disadvantage of technology is that it eliminates a great degree of humanity associated with communication such as the ability to convery deep feelings, and it's very easy to misunderstand and offend each other. I myself have and still struggle with this issue regarding our cultures surrender to technology. And because we aren't in front of each other it's really easy to say things we know we wouldn't dare say in public out of value for our own personal dignity and respect. I tried to be as professional as possible.
Concerning the issue of birth control Islamically:
* It's always best to consult your local Imam or Shayak versus an online community. 
m5.5 The husband is permitted to practice coitus interrupts in love making with his wife though it is better not to 
page 526 Reliance Of The Traveller: A Classical Manual of Islamic Sacred Law by Ahmad ibn Naqib al-Misri and Nuh Ha Mim Keller.

w.46.1 (Yusuf Waradawu:) Islam has encouraged prolific reproduction and blessed children, male and female. But birth control has been made a dispensation for the Muslim when rational motives and real necessities call for it. The prevalent means people resorted to for preventing or diminishing births in the time of the Prophet sws was coitus interruptus, placing the sperm outside the womb when ejaculation was felt imminent, and the prophetic Companions did this during the time of the prophethoood and divine inspiriation. Bukhari and Muslim relate that Jabir, " We used to practice coitus interruptus in the time of the Messenger of Allah sws while the Koran was being revealed." And in Sahih Muslim: " We used to practice cotius interruptus in the time of the Messenger of Allah sws." Word of this reach him and he did not prohibit it.
A man came to the prophet sws and said " O Messenger of Allah, I have a bond woman with whom  practice coitus interruptus. I do not want her to get pregnant, but I want what men want.  The Jews say that cotius interruptus is a lesser form of killing one's children. " The Prophet swws  said:
" The Jews have lied. If Allah wanted to create it, you would not be able to prevent it."
(al-Halal wal al-haram fi al-Islam (y1110), 191-192
The Offensiveness of Contraception in Shafi'i School 
w.46.2 (Ghazali:) It is of the etiquette of intercourse not practice coitus interrupts, there being disagreement among scholars as tothe permissiblity or offensive of doing so, though the correct position in our opinion is that it permissible. As for it's offensiveness, offensive is a term applied to things whose prohibition is closer to the unlawful, things whose prohibition is closer to the permissible, and things merely involving something of the non meritorious; and it ( coitus interruptus) is offensive in this third sense, the non performance of a meritorious act, just as it said, for example, that " it is offensivce for some one in a mosque to sit out invoking Allah (dhikr) or praying." or " it's ofensive for some one living Mecca not to peform the hajj every year." The meaning of this offensiveness is merely that it is forgoing what is fitter and more praiseworthy, as we established earlier in explaining the virture of having achild ( Ihya'ulum al-din (y39), 2.47).
page 950 Reliance Of The Traveller: A Classical Manual of Islamic Sacred Law by Ahmad ibn Naqib al-Misri and Nuh Ha Mim Keller.

Please visit sunnipath.org. They have qualified scholars ( Ijaza and all) that specialize in the fiqh of all four schools and may have an archive on the issue. 
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