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    Posted: 17 August 2006 at 9:08am

I think it is all up to the individual person.  In my case it is not a problem for me to discuss issues in private.  I have a husband whom I love dearly, and it is appropriate (imo) for me to try to answer any concerns or perhaps explain something I had said in a post.  I have many male friends....my husband has female friends.  We are faithful and love only each other.  But I think we have that one thing which is a MUST in any marriage, and that is trust.  Like Angela, I met my husband many years ago online, strictly by chance....a long funny story I won't bore you with right now.  We finally ended up married and very happy with each other.  To make a long story short, I don't have a problem talking with men in a platonic manner.  My husband doesn't mind that I "chat" with men, in fact I often discuss some of the interesting issues I have been chatting about........and he does the same with me.  We are quite secure in the knowledge that we have no interest in having any sort of inappropriate relationship with the opposite gender. 

I know that Jesus spoke with many women while he was here on earth, i.e., the woman at the well, Mary Magdalene, etc. 

But for those ladies who do feel uncomfortable, or even perhaps shy, talking in a private message to a man, they should be respected and in no way, shape, or form coerced into feeling the conversation is mandatory.  It is NOT, and they have every right to just click the delete button.  That's all it takes....end of story!  Oh, and don't list your private email address unless you want to talk with strangers.  We really never know who we're talking to here....except for the relatively few individuals who have met personally.

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I believe that a woman has the right to avoid and neglect a man, if she is not comfortable with him.

Similarly, a man also has the right to avoid and neglect a woman, if he is not comfortable with her.

Everyone is independent.

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Originally posted by Israfil Israfil wrote:

Sister Herjihad why would you get upset at what I previously said>? It's quite true.....At least Angel sees my point. It's kind of tiresome for me even to discuss this, I don't even PM any Muslimah's anyway.

Because your statement:   A true woman of God indeed, was uncalled for and untrue.

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Sister Herjihad why would you get upset at what I previously said>? It's quite true.....At least Angel sees my point. It's kind of tiresome for me even to discuss this, I don't even PM any Muslimah's anyway.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote herjihad Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 15 August 2006 at 7:47am
Originally posted by Maryah Maryah wrote:

Asalaamu alaikum:

Could the forum administrator please go to the whyislam.com forum and note that they have the male/female symbols next to the name, information and such? Could they do this for this forum and resolve this issue. Mine is as follows:

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Bismillah,

Yes, sister, that's a great idea.  I also think a religion indicator would be helpful in communications as well.  Brother Salman got upset with my user name thinking I was a guy, so I put Married Muslimah in my signature to solve that issue for myself.

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Well what if people don't want to indicate?   
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Asalaamu alaikum:

Could the forum administrator please go to the whyislam.com forum and note that they have the male/female symbols next to the name, information and such? Could they do this for this forum and resolve this issue. Mine is as follows:

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Originally posted by Israfil Israfil wrote:

Funny I replied to Angela with an Islamic greeting she doesn't reply similarly a true woman of God indeed!

Bismillah,

Brother, I don't appreciate you saying this about Sister Angela.

Salaamu Alaykum

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