Does Islam allow Surrogate mothers?

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   Assalamu Alaikum:
Even if the first wife raised the child, Islamically it would be like adopting the child. You can breastfeed to make the child mahrem, but the birth mother would still be considered the real mother. 
Also, there is a prohibition against marriage for any reason other than marriage.... You know what I mean!  To marry a woman just to birth a child and then divorce her, or marry a man so that you can divorce him to go back to your first husband, are prohibited. 

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Mishmish Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 01 November 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1694	Post Options Post Reply Quote Mishmish Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 May 2006 at 1:49pm
	Assalamu Alaikum: Even if the first wife raised the child, Islamically it would be like adopting the child. You can breastfeed to make the child mahrem, but the birth mother would still be considered the real mother. Also, there is a prohibition against marriage for any reason other than marriage.... You know what I mean! To marry a woman just to birth a child and then divorce her, or marry a man so that you can divorce him to go back to your first husband, are prohibited.
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Hayfa Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 07 June 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2368	Post Options Post Reply Quote Hayfa Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 05 May 2006 at 2:54pm
	oh yes.. of course with marriage should be permanant.. jus that people squiggle and re-create things. They twist things and bend it which ever way they think they can justify.. Some man 'claimed' (I just talked to him once on the phone) to be an Iman in Brooklyn, NYC said we need a 'temporary marriage' in order to talk to me on the phone. All kinds of people out there.
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Patty Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 14 September 2001 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2382	Post Options Post Reply Quote Patty Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 06 May 2006 at 11:33am
	As a Roman Catholic, I notice that our religions adhere to the same belief(s) regarding surrogate parenting. My own sister and her husband could not conceive, and decided to adopt. (They became the parents of 4 little brothers and sisters, 2 boys and 2 girls, who had been horribly abused by their birth parents.) Here is what Catholics believe regarding surrogate parenting: Homologous artificial fertilization (that is, any technique used to achieve conception using the gametes of the two spouses joined in marriage) is prohibited when it separates procreation from the marital act in its unitive significance (e.g., any technique used to achieve extra-corporeal conception).²⁹ Because of the dignity of the child and of marriage, and because of the uniqueness of the mother-child relationship, participation in contracts or arrangements for surrogate motherhood is not permitted. Moreover, the commercialization of such surrogacy denigrates the dignity of women, especially the poor.³⁰ A Catholic health care institution that provides treatment for infertility should offer not only technical assistance to infertile couples but also should help couples pursue other solutions (e.g., counseling, adoption). A Catholic health care institution should provide prenatal, obstetric, and postnatal services for mothers and their children in a manner consonant with its mission. Abortion (that is, the directly intended termination of pregnancy before viability or the directly intended destruction of a viable fetus) is never permitted. Every procedure whose sole immediate effect is the termination of pregnancy before viability is an abortion, which, in its moral context, includes the interval between conception and implantation of the embryo. Catholic health care institutions are not to provide abortion services, even based upon the principle of material cooperation. In this context, Catholic health care institutions need to be concerned about the danger of scandal in any association with abortion providers. I hope this offers some worthy information on the subject. We do seem to be close in our beliefs on this subject. God's Peace! Patty Edited by Patty
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amah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 18 March 2006 Status: Offline Points: 1334	Post Options Post Reply Quote amah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2006 at 1:43am
	Patty, just wanted to ask you, since you mentioned abortion....are you (Catholics) allowed to abort in case of emergency , for example, if the pregnancy is a threat to the mother's life??? Thanks...
	Allah is Sufficient as a Walee (Protector) and Allah is Sufficient as a Naseer (Helper). (Surah An-Nisa, Chapter #4, Verse #45)

Abeer23 Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 28 September 2005 Status: Offline Points: 493	Post Options Post Reply Quote Abeer23 Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2006 at 1:51am
	As salamu alaikum Sister Amah Jazakillahu khairan. I truly admire your method of giving naseeha. Peacemaker, Jazakallahu khairan for your input. Western study of science is a bit secular in nature. Muslims have to be careful and approach it from an Islamic perspective. Mishmish, glad it makes sense to you now. Patty, interesting post.

Patty Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 14 September 2001 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 2382	Post Options Post Reply Quote Patty Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2006 at 4:43am
	Dear Amah: You asked the following -- "Patty, just wanted to ask you, since you mentioned abortion....are you (Catholics) allowed to abort in case of emergency , for example, if the pregnancy is a threat to the mother's life??? Thanks..." In the Catholic faith abortion is considered murder and is never allowed intentionally. If the Mother's life is in danger (which is very rare in this day and age), the Mother must be saved, with every effort made NOT to intentionally cause the death of the fetus/baby. One scenario which comes to mind is in the event of a tubal pregnancy. As we know this pregnancy cannot survive, as the baby is outside the womb, implanted in the tube. This is a case where the baby must be carefully removed from the tube, otherwise the Mother will not survive. It is a very sad situation. I hope this helps answer your question. Peace to you. Patty
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amah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 18 March 2006 Status: Offline Points: 1334	Post Options Post Reply Quote amah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2006 at 5:01am
	Thanks Patty, peace to you too!
	Allah is Sufficient as a Walee (Protector) and Allah is Sufficient as a Naseer (Helper). (Surah An-Nisa, Chapter #4, Verse #45)

amah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Moderator Group Female Joined: 18 March 2006 Status: Offline Points: 1334	Post Options Post Reply Quote amah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 07 May 2006 at 5:04am
	Jazakallahukhairan to you too sister Abeer. May Allah increase you in your knowledge (and the rest of us).
	Allah is Sufficient as a Walee (Protector) and Allah is Sufficient as a Naseer (Helper). (Surah An-Nisa, Chapter #4, Verse #45)