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Quote MuslimNL Replybullet Topic: Relationship with non muslim woman/invite to islam
    Posted: 18 May 2017 at 1:55pm
Assalmoe aleikom,

I have an issue wich i need advice from from others muslims.

Unfortunately i have been in a relation with a non-muslim girl for couple
of years. At that time i wasn't practising as a muslim and i know now that
it was not the good thing to do. Now last 4,5 months our contact has been
severed due to problems with her parents. She didn't call me or contact me
and in this time i made dua to ALlah that in the case that she wasn't to
become a muslima that i wanted her never return back to me. But after a
few weeks she contacted me and to my opinion it was like there was nothing
wrong when we had a conversation on the phone. But still i made another
dua that i dont wanted her to contact me in whatever form if she didn't
want to enter islam. I don't know if this dua i made is prohibited or not.

Anyway after that again we didn't have any contact and i decided to send
her a letter to invite her to islam and asked her to go on with her life
if she didn't want to become a muslima. But after 4 or 5 days she
contacted me and we would meet each other in a couple of weeks. But again
after this call i never heard something from her. It is strange because we
never had any fight or discussions and she was clearly happy with me and
in my opinion she isn't an arrogant person.

About her: She is a girl or woman who was happy to stay at home and didn't
do all the things many other non-muslims girls in Europe do, like going to
the club, having bad friends, drinking etc. She is also an obedient girl
and if i asked her something she would do it and she would insist that i
should make decisions. To me that means she is not arrogant, but on the
other hand i don't understand her behaviour for constantly not contacting
me. We barely spoke about islam with each other and that is something i
really regret. I have to say that i made earlier dua's to Allah
to show me signs if she wanted to follow islam but i didn't got and
answer or i failed in seeing it.

My question now is :

Should i contact her and talk to her again and invite her to islam or
should i abandon her? I can't answer this question by myself since i have
had different signals from her. I dont want to risk that i contact her and
she doesn't answer my calls.

I will respect your answer and i will do as you advise me.

Jazakaullahu ghairan

M. from Holland
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