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    Posted: 04 March 2017 at 8:28pm
Salamu alykum. I am a 21 year old muslim guy living in Canada. I want to get married but I cant seem to find anyone, and no one wants to marry me. i sometimes feel sad and hopeless although I try to have a good opinion about Allah and I try to be patient, but how patient do I have to be? It feels like this is taking forever, I just want to stop committing sins and watching porn but it leaves me frustrated as I have tried everything out there, matrimony sites, my parents, etc.  Everyone keeps on rejecting me telling me that I am too young. I got engaged (islamically married on paper) a few months ago but subhanallah the sister divorced me for no reason after everything was going so smoothly and I treated her like a queen, I ended up loosing so much money as a result of this. After this happened, mom feels like I need to wait a few years she feels like I need to prove to her that I am ready but I don't want to wait a few years, I feel like the wold has ran out of good muslim girls and I just feel really hopeless and sad... i have tried fasting, tried tahajud, tried reading Quran, but the problem is inherently there. I need to get married, and no not for sex, but for emotional fulfillment and for someone to help me get closer to Allah swt. You see its so hard for us young men as no one will take us seriously and we have to compete with a lot of older and richer guys to get married and I just feel like this is not fair. I feel so upset as I cry to Allah very so often and I hope that my tears are not just in vein.  Feminism is for sure poisoning Muslim women tricking them into believing that it makes them weak if they show vulnerability if they are a good wife/mother etc. Please help
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Quote abuayisha Replybullet Posted: 07 March 2017 at 7:45am
Salaams and welcome. What do you do for a living? Perhaps your family and others who have already advised you to wait are correct in their assessment. After all, we here in cyberspace know absolutely nothing about you other than your admission to committing sins, which you should keep to yourself as a private matter. I think the core principles of feminism have little to do with not being a good wife or mother, and more to do with equal rights and opportunities in male dominated societies.   
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Quote Jannah4Life Replybullet Posted: 07 March 2017 at 7:55am
Sorry you are right about the sins part, I am just fruserated as I dont want to go down that road. I work for a telecommunications company (Rogers) and I have to disagree about fesmanism, in the 18-19 centuary it was fighting for equality but now it has gotten way out of hand, a very good insight on this issue is the documentary called "the red pill" which will explain everything
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