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Quote alibcn28 Replybullet Topic: marriage advise
    Posted: 19 August 2016 at 6:10pm
Salam everyone
First time ever posting ok so a little background I'm living in Canada but originally from pakistan I am 22 as of now this one year unfortunately I lost to my temptations and visited escorts multiple times when I was 18 but I would have huge regrets afterwards and decided not to go back that way but now I really want to get married and I tried talking to my mother and I will be getting arranged marriage back home which I am fine with because I will be the one to have a final say but but the main issue is money I hope this doesn't sound cringey but this is just how pakistanis are my mom wants to do huge functions and buy alot of jewelry for my future spouse and we are upper middle class have house in Canada and land and a nice house back in pakistan also not bragging but just trying to explain the situation I am the only child I do make decent money as well as my father but her expectations are so high that but the money needed for all this is just an unbelievable number which will take us at least 2 or 3 years to save and I am scared that i will go back to my wrongdoings like my sex drive is at an all time high how do I explain and discuss this with my parents and by the way sex is not only reason for marriage but I just want someone in my life now which I am ready for and up for it but I don't know what my mom wants to prove to other people like marriage is suppose to be simple in islam but I can't say to my parents that I used to visit escorts and now I'm scared I will go back    so please give some advice
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Quote asep48garut60 Replybullet Posted: 08 September 2016 at 5:53pm
Wa'alaikum salaam,

Dear Alibcn28, could you please explain to me all of your aims more specific, such as:
1 .....?
3 .... ? and so on

I am worried if my advice is less precise to answer what you mean.

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