Marriage Issues - Newly married and trying so hard

Abu Loren in our faith we don't seek after the sins of others asking them to reveal that which Allah has concealed. If a person has enough shame to sin in secret and not bring it forth into the open, then we think good of him, and his weakness and transgressions are between him and his Lord. Therefore, based on what our sister has said about her husband, it would be woefully inappropriate for her to ask if he is homosexual, as well as for you to suggest likewise.   

Well generally speaking sin is,and will always be, ubiquitous, however that doesn't justify suspension of proper Islamic etiquette. In other words, if a man's wife is a few hours late from school or work, would it be appropriate to think the very worse and foul scenario simply because 'in these modern times this is a great problem for Muslim.' I'd say that would be a recipe for many broken homes, and possibly broken bones as well.

Asalamoalikum, I just wanted to add my 2pence worth...

It sounds like he was not mature enough to handle a relationship that requires his attention and communication throughout. This has nothing to do with age, its to do with experiences and an acceptance of your situation in life that you are in at that minute.

If a person doesn't want to listen, it can means a number of things:

- arrogance
- inferiority - (maybe ones own situation, seeing others, seeing friends)
- feeling trapped (freedom issues)
- feeling like he hasn't fulfilled his life "wants" and got married too early
- Something personal that he doesn't want you to know about (health, his desire toward someone, the position he feels he is in life, depression etc etc)

Sometimes people are EXCEPTIONALLY good at hiding their inner most thoughts and use things to mask it - cleaning obsessively, going to the gym obsessively etc.

Being attractive is a two way thing, its not one way. In fact it is incumbent for a man to look presentable to his wife in marriage, the same as it is for a woman. But it doesnt sound like he is really hammering away at his body to look nice for you.

The best thing you can do in my opinion is to sit him down by himself and let him talk about how he feels about things - the marriage, whats holding him back and sometimes you have to take the role of a psychologist to really understand his problem without answering with a solution there and then.

Then once this is done, making sincere dua to Allah SWT to change the heart of your husband and make him more loving and aware, and asking your parents to do the same will help.

If that doesn't then you need to escalate the situation to parents and get them involved properly.

JazakAllah