My problems after I converted. Please, help me

Wa Alaykum Asalaamu Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

All praise is due to Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala for guiding you to His religion Alhamdulilah!

First of all you must not break family ties as the Prophet (SalAllahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said in a Hadith that no one will smell the fragrance of Jannah if they break their family ties.

Secondly, all of what you are experiencing are a test. Satan will work overtime in putting doubts in your mind and you must overcome this with reading the Qur'an and Hadiths etc.

Thirdly, it must be a shock for your family when you've reverted to Islam and you must accept that they will be giving you a hard time. But In Shaa Allah as time goes by they will slowly accept your decision to give your life to following the commandments of Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala and by seeing your good manners and your new life style they will revert too In Shaa Allah. Their curiosity will make them look into Islam and by the Power of Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala they will become Muslims too In Shaa Allah.

Never lose your faith.

Salaam

Wa alaikumussalaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I won't be able to fully understand what you're going through as I was born in a Muslim family alhumdulillah; but from what I have seen and learned from my convert friends I can only tell you to trust in Allah's plan for you. I know people who have had to hide their beliefs from their parents for years due to the fear of getting rejected. Masha'Allah you are blessed to have stood up for your faith and confronted your family. That's really brave. Like the brother said with time they will see the beneficial changes in you and the benefit in being Muslim. Try to please your family in other ways, ways which do not go against Islam. Show them that you care for them and that your decision was not selfish. I know it's a lot easier said than done and it can be really difficult with all the criticism and restrictions but Allah does not burden anyone with more than they can bear. The least you are required to do is fulfill the obligatory. So do as much as you are able to. Allah is always watching and He knows how you yearn to practice your religion. He will surely make a way out for you. Dua is very important in the life of a Muslim; make lots of dua and have faith in Allah's Help.

Surah Al-Baqara (2), Verse 153:
"O you who believe! seek assistance through patience and prayer; surely Allah is with the patient."

Surah At-Talaq (65), Verses 2-3
"...And whosoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent."

If you read the seerah (biography) of the Prophet (saws), the early converts to Islam (the sahabah,companions) went through a great deal of torture, both verbal and physical, nonetheless they remained steadfast.

Jojo77 wrote: Thanks for reply. I'm aware these matters which you said. I know it was big shock for them. At the beginning I also hoped Allah will guide them too. It's for sure but after time I see they ignore everything and don't wanna get to know anything, only insulting this what they don't know. To be sure, I don't wanna break my family ties, never! But I just can't live longer with them. Anyway I think when I leave home, our relations will become later. I have one question yet. I know I have to obey my parents, excepting bad things, but if I wanna leave home but they disagree, it'll be bad? Please, understand that my situation is really hard and I repeat I don't wanna break family ties. Allah knows the best and may He guide us right path.

Yes, you're right; as Muslims we are commanded to obey our parents. But if they try to make you disobey Allah or prevent you from practicing Islam you should not listen to them. Allah says in the Qur'an,

�And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents; but if they strive to make you join with Me (in worship) anything (as a partner) of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do� (Surah Al-�Ankaboot (29), Verse 8)

And the Prophet (saws) said: �There is no obedience if it involves disobedience towards Allah; obedience is only in that which is right and proper.� (Sahih Bukhari)

So if you think that it is not possible for you to practice Islam properly while still staying with them, you are allowed to move out even if this means they will be upset. You won't be doing anything bad because obedience to Allah comes first. If your family is preventing you from obeying the commands of Allah and you're finding it difficult to make them understand, then it is not wrong to leave home and stay in a place where you can freely practice Islam.

I pray that Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala gives you the strength to remain steadfast and that He guides your family to the truth. Ameen.

Allahumma baarak lak (May Allah bless you)

Why not stay home and complete your studies, while having support from your family. It is understandable your family is concerned about your religious conversion given the media coverage surrounding your new faith. Your religion forbids you to eat pork, not to help them manage and clean the pigpens. There is nothing like living where you were raised, knowing the language and customs, and more importantly, being with family. Be patient with them and try to see matters from their perspective.

Really thank you for all answers :) I try to do my the best but I'm only being. Anyway second reason why I wanna leave my home place is there are almost no Muslims here. The most of them are for a while only. There is only one small basement 25 km away and it's opened for jumuah only. Alhamdulillah I have great experience from Germany when I could go to mosque every evening and I could learn something new :)
About my family I really hope Allah will guide them, I pray for this everyday but when I want to my father especially, for him it's always reason for insulting but who know? Allah knows the best what will happen.
Please, make dua for me. I sometimes feel really weak inside and having really bad mood because of that but when I'm thinking about everything what happened, I'm really happy. It was very hard but God helps me a lot everyday subhanaAllah ;)
Thanks again for all answears, may Allah guide and protect all of you.

P.S. I received this message this morning:
Forwarding a request:

Please pray for the below mentioned brother......

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

I am Sheikh Mohammed Hussein Saleh Al Rashed. I request you if you open my letter , please send it to your list in contacts . Please pray or make dua for my quick recovery. I have stomach cancer and it spread to all my organs. I request you not to close my message unless you have sent it to your contacts. Because one day you will need dua so please pray and make dua for me. May Allah Bless all those who helped me by spreading my message, May Allah reward You for ur dua "Aameen"

Edited by Jojo77 - 05 December 2014 at 11:04am