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Abu Loren
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Sawda bint Zamʿa
The death of Khadija left Muhammad lonely, and, before he left for Medina, it was suggested by Khawlah bint Hakim that he marry Sawda bint Zamʿa, who had suffered many hardships after she became a Muslim. Prior to that, Sawda was married to a paternal cousin of hers named As-Sakran bin �Amr, and had five or six sons from her previous marriage. There are disagreement in Muslim tradition whether Muhammad first married Sawda or Aisha. In one account, he married Sawda in Shawwal, when she was about 55 years old, in the tenth year of Prophethood, after the death of Khadija. At about the same period, Aisha was betrothed to him.[11] As Sawda got older, and some time after Muhammad's marriage to Umm Salama,[12] some sources claim that Muhammad wished to divorce Sawda.[13] Still other traditions maintain that Muhammad did not intend to divorce her, but only Sawda feared or thought that he would.[14] As a compromise, or because of her old age, Sawda offered to give her turn of Muhammad's conjugal visits to Aisha, stating that she "was old, and cared not for men; her only desire was to rise on the Day of Judgment as one of his wives".[13] While some Muslim historians cite this story as a reason of revelation for Quran 4:128, others like Rashid Rida dispute this whole account as "poorly supported", or mursal.[14] I've highlighted in bold the part where it says 'some sources'. Who are these sources? There is absolutely no evidence from the Hadiths that the Prophet (pbuh) wished to divorce her nor did she fear that the Prophet (pbuh) will divorce her. However, he did give them the choice if they wanted to, if they were unhappy in the marriage. It was narrated that 'Aishah said: "The Messenger of Allah gave us the choice and we chose him; was that a divorce?"
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Nausheen
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Caringheart,
Greetings to you! It is interesting to note divorce is not even an option in christianity. Now I understand your stance in debate on this thread better. Thank you for sharing the article. The case in Islam is not so impossible. It is said in the Quran that divorce is one of the most disliked things to Allah for which He has granted permissibility. Im really grateful to God that He is so merciful and that Islam subtly takes into regard the weaknesses of mankind. |
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<font color=purple>Wanu nazzilu minal Qurani ma huwa
Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.[/COLOR] |
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Caringheart
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Here is a very interesting teaching.
http://uncommonanswers.com/home/common-questions/divorce-and-separation/ |
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Matt Browne
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Some questions: Did the Prophet wish to divorce Sawda bint Zam'a? Or did she just fear or think that he would? If yes, why would she think that he would?
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A religion that's intolerant of other religions can't be the world's best religion --Abdel Samad
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W.S.
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Even sleeping, I've heard. Nausheen, you've written some wise things on this thread and one can but agree. Edited by W.S. - 04 November 2012 at 10:22am |
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Nausheen
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Greetings Caringheart,
Thank you for your post. Thank you for the poem, its really beautiful. Ideally for muslims every action can be an act of worship, depending on a correct intention behind it. In a prophetic tradition its said that one who has married has completed half of faith, not s/he has to concentrate on rest half. In another its said that one can choose a partner for three reasons - for beauty, for wealth and lineage, or for religion, and choosing for religion is best. These sentiments within the faith tell a great deal about how to treat marraige and marriage vows. Reason why people have started to ignore this perhaps lies in the fact that in our race to mordernization we have left religion behind in all aspects of life, including marriage - thus the chaos. Quite logically said we should have better laws and people must be returning to their faith / God - so we can have stabler family units. Establishing laws might be easier than making people turn to religion though. Peace to you! |
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Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.[/COLOR] |
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Caringheart
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I very much agree. It is what is needed. |
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Caringheart
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Greetings Nausheen,
Your post when reading #1... so crushing to my heart. I know of these injustices of course. Just I suppose, for those who do not live in a society where this is every day, the mind protects itself from believing how frequent and common they are. I had a friend in India - a doctor in training - and I asked him what he found so distressing about being there... He is a very religious/spiritual young man. He never would tell me. What I do not understand is that if a contract has been made, then that contract should be satisfied before the marriage, and final after the marriage has taken place. What needs to change are the laws that allow this sort of thing to happen. What gets me about this is view of west is so terrible, why, when there are things like this going on in other parts of the world, which to me is so much worse than moral failings of the west. I mean, yes, morals are way down in the west and this is very distressing, but this senseless killing - so little value of human life? It is one thing when people's lack of morals, disobedience to God, hurts themselves, but when 'obedience' to God hurts others - Which is the worse of the two evils? In cases #2,3,4 of abuse, I agree, no one should live with abuse. This is so sad for children when there is no solution. Often what people have done in the past, since divorce is unallowable, they quietly left their spouse and went somewhere else to live saying that the spouse had died. Often children were even told this. This does not break the law of God and allows one to have somewhat of a life, as long as they know that they are still held to their vow of marriage in God's eyes, and anything outside of God's law will be counted as sin against them, and they will be held accountable on judgement day. These are the reasons we are admonished not to yoke with unbelievers. If both do not have God there is no marriage. Something my mother shared with me: Marriage Takes Three Marriage takes three to be complete; It's not enough for two to meet. They must be united in love By love's Creator, God above. Then their love will be firm and strong; Able to last when things go wrong, Because they've felt God's love and know He's always there, He'll never go. And they have both loved Him in kind With all the heart and soul and mind And in that love they've found the way To love each other every day. A marriage that follows God's plan Takes more than a woman and a man. Marriage takes three. � Beth Stuckwisch/Dicksons This is why at my wedding ceremony we lit three candles signifying the two becoming in union with God. Case #5 is what I consider 'bearing the cross' that has been given by God. Accepting that the marriage was formed and honoring that covenant even though it is imperfect. It may change as time goes on. This takes great courage, endurance, faith, obedience... all things that grow character. What needs to change are the rules by which some of these marriages are created, maybe not so much the rules by which they are broken. If marriages are made first by better rules, rules of God, then rules for breaking marriage would not be needed. *Sigh If only it were a perfect world where all knew how to follow God. I'm glad you liked the lyrics, now I share with you a poem. Salaam, Caringheart Edited by Caringheart - 02 November 2012 at 5:09pm |
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