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hamama
Starter. Female Joined: 03 September 2012 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 4 |
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Posted: 03 September 2012 at 7:13pm |
salam to all,
I am living like in a nightmare but I cannot get out. Briefly, after 4 years, my money all gone, dont drive, no job, left my meaningless marriage and live in a women shelter.
My cries is not only because I am a loser for marrying a man who cannot support fully except for basic roof and food. I have been living in US and away from my origin country that I love and miss for 4 years. I cry to him to save away some money, even to make a bank overdraft for my sake as I desperately need to visit my country, he initially promissed but later stick on he cannot afford it. Now that I left, he messages me claiming he will provide that savings but it surely is a lie. So many reasons that proved too late now that I was a st**id to be married to him.
I am going crazy with shame, that I become broke due to my marriage, I did not marry to someone who supports me. Now I have nothing, not even the ability to see family/friends and my country. I beg for help from some people include zakat organization and successful Muslims but they consider me crazy. I feel so shame and even my sisters have ignored me as they cannot help, I feel trapped. I cried for help to others and of course always to ALLAH I prayed and cried but my situation only change for worst. I never be this poor before in my life.
Once I am so homesick, I have nobody to talk to so I called911 just to speak to someone of my situation but of course it was useless thing to do. I could not find a job, I have nowhere to go as transitional place from this shelter. I realize I need a man who can support me but not like the last marriage.
In our fight, he has said he divorce me by phone message, and I am just glad he did. But if I stress it, he will argue. He is selfish that he has to find another woman and be happy before he said the divorce is real. I not only need a man to create a new happy life for me, but also help me to end this marriage for real because I dont know what to do. Sometime I wish I can just dissapear from this earth but I am actually a good positive person and can do good for myself and others, but problems keep coming. How can I find a good man that is good for me as much as I can be a good wife to him? Edited by hamama - 03 September 2012 at 7:20pm |
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hakeema
Groupie Female Joined: 10 October 2005 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 98 |
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As-Salaam Alaikum,
I think you should focus on building yourself right now instead of just looking for a man to do it for you or to fix your problem for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Hakeema |
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seeja
Senior Member Female Joined: 28 October 2010 Location: India Status: Offline Points: 111 |
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As-Salaam Alaikum I do agree with �Hakeema� comments. |
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Islam (Total Surrender, Submission, Obedience, Sincerity and Peace with Allah) is for all people, in all places and in all times
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Rofexa
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hamama
Starter. Female Joined: 03 September 2012 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 4 |
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Nobody feels what I am feeling. I have never work in US before. I am a coward to drive. I have tried to find job but failed for the last 5 years. I have ambition but my husband never support me in anything.
it is correct that only ALLAH can help me. forum is useless.
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Idil
Groupie Female Joined: 12 September 2012 Location: United Kingdom Status: Offline Points: 44 |
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Asalamu Calykum sis,
It saddens me to hear about the troubles that you are under going. I pray to ALLAH to make your affairs easy and bless you with a job that will do you good both in this world and hereafter. Always remember sis that after difficulty there is w ease. For now though sis, focus on yourself and building your life. I would only advice you to take another husband once you have stabilized yourself because nowadays sis you can only count on ALLAH, no one else. Also hope you will be reunited with your family soon as they will giveyou the support that you require. Furthermore, know that life is full of tests, challenges and problems and nowadays everyone is feeling the heat due to the global economic crisis that we are in. Please do update us though on your situation and what we as your sisters on the net can do for you. Wish I was able to help you financially but currently, I am struggling with finding a job as well sis. So may ALLAH bless us all. |
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5purplemarbles
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Salaam alaykum dear sister, im so sorry for this hard times. you know i have similar situation,just a small different that i am no home and have three kids who need shelter and food everyday. im here for you dear sister and would like to talk to you anytime. you know if you have the strength from Allah swt then you can go on and be strong, and this come not by a man but true faith in Allah swt. I know it so hard, like i said i be in the situation as you, and you know i think we be good friends soon insha Allah. where in usa are you located? message me please sister im waiting to hear from you, salaam
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hamama
Starter. Female Joined: 03 September 2012 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 4 |
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thank you very much sister, I am hunger for good friends to talk to. Sure, it is true we all can only depend on ALLAH and so I talk to HIM always (especially I have nobody else). Not just in DOA, also when I feel lonely, depressed, shame or hurt by people's words; when I am cold and tired while using the public transport. Alhamdulillah, for Muslim, we have guidance by ALLAH's words in the Quran and also the sunnah/hadith. So many times I picked myself up from the bottom pit of broken heart, by the words of ALLAH and hadith. But life would be easier or more bearable with the support of friends/family or a good husband, to wipe away my humiliation and help fix my broken heart.
But alhamdulillah through my struggles, I learn about people of different background, status and also about the flow of life (how in certain situations are out of one's control, except ALLAH.) and so I have to accept QADA.
I value your friendship very much alhamdulillah. thank you for your understanding. Edited by hamama - 21 December 2012 at 11:26pm |
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