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    Posted: 12 July 2014 at 8:54am
A woman doesn't have to pay for anything but if I was with a woman who was not paying for anything and was making decent money then I WILL NOT LET HER WORK (UNLESS SHE WAS MAKING LOW MONEY OR THAT MONEY WAS TO HELP HER PARENTS OR SIBLINGS). Its pathetic and childish how women don't want to compromise their rights on working but at the same time want men to compromise their right on having a full time housewife. It is really sad. (by the way IF A WOMAN HELPED ME I WILL OBVIOUSLY HELP HER IN THE HOUSE).
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Assalaamoalaikum Nausheen.  I wanted to respond to your last comment two days ago but I have been really busy with working.  Anyway, I am disappointed in you.  You should know that when you quote someone you should make sure that you give them credit for it. Smile 
 
 
Okay dear, I stand corrected!
 
It is perhaps one of the very few threads I've followed this far. not sure where's the maganet behind it.
 
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Assalaamoalaikum Nausheen.  I wanted to respond to your last comment two days ago but I have been really busy with working.  Anyway, I am disappointed in you.  You should know that when you quote someone you should make sure that you give them credit for it. Smile 
Now this is what you left out: 
 
quotation-> "I know a woman is a man's responsibility in Islam. I also know that a woman can earn money and keep it to herself.
I know that she does not have to work at home if her husbad can afford for domestic help.
I also know that islamically she is not obliged to contribute to the daily expenditure.
 
Now I m asking you all is there a wiggle room out of this so I can make my wife work at home, and pay bills from her salary.
 
Im not saying I deny she does not have to do this, but am asking is there an islamic way in which I can make her do what i want because I am finding it hard to live by those islamic rules which are so much in her favor and against my pocket and my bank balance !
 
Im just asking this and now you guys tell me you reject me as a muslim!
 
You guys know nothing about islam, showing me ayat, I already know (but do not want to pay heed to) which do not suit my situation, and then tell me Im wrong? "<- quotation
 
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High five to the sisters.  Munnim why you hide your hand?  Oh, we see it now.  Wow, I like your red Manure.  I really like how you added the diamonds to your pinky finger nail.Smile Are you going to take the nail polish off your nails soon, because Ramadan will be here soon.Smile  But I am curious, do you mind telling me who is your Mannicurist?  LOL
Wait, should I trust him to give me the name of his Manicurist?  Or do you think that he will mislead me like he tried to mislead people on this forum?Wink
 
Ok, Ok, sisters let's leave tseris (<- unscramble) MunnimA alone. Smile 
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Originally posted by Munnim Munnim wrote:

That is what the Quran says. It's not all roses. "I don't have to cook, I don't have to clean, you can hire help if you want it done, I don't have to pay anything, you are the provider. I can work in Islam and what I earn is completely in my disposal, it doesn't mean beat ( although most regarded translators say it does). What is that? What man can live with that??


80-90% of all Muslim males ?

At least those who know what ''being a man'' is all about.

A lot of non-muslims like to tell muslims how muslim women are oppressed and men have an upper hand, I would love to direct them to this thread! Most women would agree that if their husbands were fulfilling thier responsibilities and understoood the above paragraph - they would have no issues with their husband being the Ameer or Leader of the house.  Privileges in Islam come with responsibilities.







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Originally posted by Nausheen Nausheen wrote:

I know a woman is a man's responsibility in Islam. I also know that a woman can earn money and keep it to herself.
I know that she does not have to work at home if her husbad can afford for domestic help.
I also know that islamically she is not obliged to contribute to the daily expenditure.
 
Now I m asking you all is there a wiggle room out of this so I can make my wife work at home, and pay bills from her salary.
 
Im not saying I deny she does not have to do this, but am asking is there an islamic way in which I can make her do what i want because I am finding it hard to live by those islamic rules which are so much in her favor and against my pocket and my bank balance !
 
Im just asking this and now you guys tell me you reject me as a muslim!
 
You guys know nothing about islam, showing me ayat, I already know (but do not want to pay heed to) which do not suit my situation, and then tell me Im wrong?
 
phew!!


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Dear Munnim,
 
Do you love your wife?
 
 
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I know a woman is a man's responsibility in Islam. I also know that a woman can earn money and keep it to herself.
I know that she does not have to work at home if her husbad can afford for domestic help.
I also know that islamically she is not obliged to contribute to the daily expenditure.
 
Now I m asking you all is there a wiggle room out of this so I can make my wife work at home, and pay bills from her salary.
 
Im not saying I deny she does not have to do this, but am asking is there an islamic way in which I can make her do what i want because I am finding it hard to live by those islamic rules which are so much in her favor and against my pocket and my bank balance !
 
Im just asking this and now you guys tell me you reject me as a muslim!
 
You guys know nothing about islam, showing me ayat, I already know (but do not want to pay heed to) which do not suit my situation, and then tell me Im wrong?
 
phew!!
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Shafaa un wa rahmatun lil mo'mineena

wa la yaziduzzalimeena illa khasara.[/COLOR]
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That is what the Quran says. It's not all roses. "I don't have to cook, I don't have to clean, you can hire help if you want it done, I don't have to pay anything, you are the provider. I can work in Islam and what I earn is completely in my disposal, it doesn't mean beat ( although most regarded translators say it does). What is that? What man can live with that?? Now you all think about whether you only select what suits you. Whether you are reflecting the wives of Mohammad S.A.W. before you expect your men to be prophets.
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