need help

Hello,

I don't know if this is the right place, but my husband is muslim and I want to convert to muslim, but I can't stop drinking. I can't seem to deal with any bit of stress without drinking a little bit. No smoking, no drugs, just this, but he doesn't like it and neither do I. He says islam can solve my problems, but problems aren't solved overnight. What should I do?

I'm sorry this was the wrong forum and I'm sorry to offend anybody. I want bother anybody again.

In understanding what the problem is specifically you will be better equipped to tackle it. 

Both of you should understand that what you are trying to change is a habit.  Habits are things that you have done frequently enough that you have stopped thinking about what and or why you are doing it.

I would suggest picking up a self help book on changing your habits.  Drinking is very similar to smoking in that they both are social drugs and they are accepted by society.  Your friends drink when they go out?  So don't go out.  Keep your friends but go places where you will not be tempted to drink especially with the peer pressure.

Know that drinking is unhealthy.  Alcohol is a poison.  It damages your liver and if enough is drank it could lead to alcohol poisoning and liver disease.

Drinking does not answer anything.  Were your problems solved after you drank and the temporary "buzz" had passed.  Probably not.  Alcohol is like a door that you willing open or not that leads a lot of negative possible outcomes: health reasons, accidents, fights, saying something you did not mean, etc. 

Know that alcohol is keeping you back and slowing you down.  Life gets stressful sometimes yes, but you have become dependent on the drink to get you through.  In other words, you do not depend on yourself but on some drink that you pay for and some Non-Muslim, probably, bad intentioned brewer puts your money in his pocket. 

i would advise you to get active with your local Islamic Center which you can look up online or in phone book.  If there are none, then join a sports team or non profit group and feed the poor.  Get active, get busy and build up your iman (faith).  You, your family, your husband will enjoy each other more when alcohol is out of your lives believe me.  You can drink everyday for the rest of your life and wake up after you have no more money left to buy more and realize that nothing is different.  You still have the same problems and more likely than not you have many more.

On lighter note, you are not the first person to have to stop drinking.  In the time of Prophet (pbuh) when he first started preaching most of the early Muslims drank, excluding Prophet (pbuh) of course.  Remember Prophet (pbuh) came to us to change our character.  He knew it wasn't going to happen overnight so why should you.  Allah (swt) is Most Merciful.  If you take one step to Allah (swt), He will run to you.  Build your character and iman by starting to pray and get closer to God and yourself.  Who are you really and what is important now? 

Early Muslims used to actually come to pray drunk.  And some Muslims who did not went to Prophet (pbuh) and said oh Propher why allow them to drink.  Prophet said that they were not ready and if he forced them to they would abandon their Islam and that was more important than the alcohol.  Not long after, when the believers routinely prayed.  prophet (pbuh) decreed that God forbids the drinking of alcohol and that Muslim who drank would not go to Paradise but to the Hellfire.  On that very day, the streets ran red with hundreds of gallons of wine and alcohol.

I know you can conquer this, just do not think so much and have courage for Allah knows best.

Wasalam

JAwad

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