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Actually, in'sha Allah means "God willing" and should be said whenever we say something about the future, as things only happen in the future if God so wills.

And ma'sha Allah means "as God wills" as in "it is as God wills".  This is said when anything has already happened to indicate that we believe that everything happens by God's will.  

I hope this is helpful.

Peace, ummziba.

Isn't Insha Allah if God Wills ummziba???  Ma'sha Allah, is when you admire something/someone???  I don't know, my language isn't Arabic.

Also, rami, I did not:

umm.. ummziba said that.. please get your facts right.

Salams :)

Bismillah (In the name of God),

Dear Veronica,

How many of these people have been in your situation?  I don't know.  My husband's family rejected me even though he married a muslim woman.  They were racist.  They wanted him to marry his cousin.  I know many muslim women who faced this difficulty.  It is so painful. 

Honey, get married.  Is there any reason you can't?  Do you love each other?  Getting married is the first step that will help your situation.  If there is a reason you can't get married through a justice of the peace, you can go to the mosque, yes, pregnant and everything -- it is his shame because he is muslim -- it is your right and duty to marry this guy if you have a future together, if he doesn't beat you!

Islaam beautifies the world.  The words of the Qur'aan are peace giving and joyful.  Get a Qur'aan and read it.  If you are lucky, there will be a study group in your area that will accept you.  And if they don't, you can private message me and I'm sure other sisters in Islaam in this forum.

Do you have family to help you at birth?  The sisters here like umz? and me can answer any questions you have on that too, honey, in pm.

I will pray for you, ISA, you will find peace and guidance.

Praise and Glory to God.

Welcome Veronica!

I also agree that you should stay away from his parents and not try to contact them in any way.  Right now you are full of pregnancy hormones, which make it hard for any woman to think clearly and logically.  (Some "feminists" would spit at me for saying such a thing, but anyone who has been pregnant knows I speak the truth!)  Don't make any major decisions until after the baby is born.

In the meantime, learn all you can about Islam.  There are many very good sites on the web for this, including this one.  You might also try:

www.islam101.com

www.thetruereligion.org

www.islamonline.net

These are all good, reliable sites.  There is a lot of misinformation out there, so be aware of that. 

I think the others have tried to warn you tactfully, I will be more direct - sex outside of marriage is considered a huge sin in Islam.  Being pregnant and unmarried in the west is seen as no big deal by most of society, not so for Muslims. I am not judging you, that is Allah's place to do so.  I am just trying to convey the facts to you so you will understand why we are all saying to stay away from his parents!  I think what we are all saying is: be careful.  Some more narrow minded folk might shun you, harass you, bother you or even do harm to you.  This is why it is wise to stay out of his parent's lives right now.

Muslims strongly believe in predestination and that all things happen for a reason and with Allah's full knowledge.  We have a saying "ma' sha Allah", which means "as God wills".  Pray to Allah for strength, courage and most of all guidance.  Allah most certainly answers the prayers of those who pray sincerely.

I wish you an easy delivery and pray that Allah will help you find the right answers.

Peace, ummziba.