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Hidden_Pearl
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Asalaamu aleikum everyone!
I wonder if some muslimas, particularly when they start wearing hijab full-time, compensate for an inability to display hair, jewellry, fashion, etc. by "decorating their faces? In other words, if all anyone can see of you anymore is your face, then that becomes your display. And if you're not so confident about your face anyway, then you might feel oddly exposed- if you see what I mean. Fashion, hairstyles, accessories, etc. do a lot to distract from things like bad skin, a big nose, not-so-regular features, but when you wear hijab suddenly all the focus is on your supposedly imperfect face! Maybe the make-up is an attempt to soothe this anxiety? Of course, some sisters do more than decorate their faces- using hijab as a fashion accessory in itself, wearing jewllery outside their abayas,etc. -making themselves into fashion-forward sparkly rainbows Well, you know what I mean. They insist that just because you're a muslima doesn't mean you have to be drab and dress in a shapeless sack. I wonder what the rest of you think of that...? |
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Chrysalis
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"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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nurulhuda
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I was replying to Hidden_Pearl's post.
Anyway, as to your concern about those in public when it's not practical to go around reminding many people... I think there is a reason for this:
This world exists in a duality; in order for us to know what the good is, we have to know what the bad is. The public space offers us many reflections of society so we can look into ourselves as Muslims. We might have unknowingly went against Allah's wishes. There is always a reason for everything so there must be a reason why we see negative portraits as reminders. We might have done the same or we might do the same in the future. Same thing as seeing positive portraits. We might not have been doing what we should do or we should strive to do better than we've been doing. Allah knows best.
Follow the good and avoid the bad as ordained by Allah.
And to anyone who thought that I've thought this discussion was leaning to back-biting, I wasn't either but I'm just being cautious because it's easy to lean towards that. First we talk about the general and then slowly it leads to specific individuals and before we know it we're talking about an individual. It's in our nature. We get carried away sometimes. We're only human...
but let's be cautious human beings. Lol.
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Centrino
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agreed. but I was talking about the women in the malls and in public not on TV.
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modestgrrl
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as salam alaikum,
Comments like this have the potential to divide the ummah. Certainly women of all backgrounds make the mistake of wearing hijab and makeup, or hijab and tight clothing, or other things with hijab that undermine the very point of wearing hijab. There's no reason to blame just white women for this. I have seen desis, black women, Arabs, Asians, and even a Bosnian woman break this rule -- at the masjid no less! So it's not just a white problem. That being said, if I see a revert who makes this mistake I remember my own progression in hijab. At first I just wore long sleeves and pants with hijab, because I was new to Islam and I didn't know any better. I also wore eyeliner. Over time, some supportive sisters gently corrected me and showed me the correct ways (alhamdulillah). So please, if you see a white sister -- or any sister -- wearing her hijab incorrectly, don't make a face at her or not talk to her. Get to know her. Ask her about her deen. Be supportive. You don't know what kind of fitnahs she's going through. Help her through them. Hold her hand and show her the right ways. And if she doesn't make it to your standard of hijab but she improves, say alhamdulillah and keep trying. |
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Chrysalis
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Salaam Hidden_Pearl! Funny you said this, cz I was also going to say something about that. But then I re-read and thought maybe the sister was referring to "white" as in white with foundation! lol |
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"O Lord, forgive me, my parents and Muslims in the Hereafter. O Lord, show mercy on them as they showed mercy to me when I was young."
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shamia
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Dont get me wrong i wear make up, but i have thought what i will do wen i start wearing hijab. Im not saying this for sympathy at all but the reason i wear make up is because i am not naturally pretty at all in fact as a child somebody called me the ugliest girl in the world, s you can get an idea of how unpretty i am. So because of this the reason i wear make up is not so much to attract attention it is so that i look normal and not stand out for my flaws, ... but if i was blessedwith natural beauty i would love to go bare faced but i just dnt see that as an option
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nurulhuda
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I believe those make-up tutorial videos are meant for women only, if that is their intention, so women can doll up for their family at home.
I've studied a little bit about television production. The cameras can pick up even the tiniest of details, especially HD cameras, so hopefully they're putting on many layers of foundation/powder to achieve a "camera-ready" look. Sometimes, it's the TV station that demands them to look their best so TV audiences will be more attentive to them. It's that whole TV psychology thing. (I don't really know how to explain it but you might get what I meant... Haha!)
However, if we feel strongly that our sisters are too excessive in their ways....
then it has become a duty for us to remind our sisters of the purpose of Hijab. However, say it in the nicest and gentlest way so we won't hurt their feelings and they will be more accepting of our advice. &:)
Allah knows best.
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