Help me to Understand

 

I am glad to hear that you feel well and happy with being here, Alhamdulilah! Surely, it is great to be befriended with Muslim Sisters and Brothers, MashaAllah!

 

The Words of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) are truly very Beautiful and they are very informative and beneficial, SubhanAllah! Reciting the Words of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) does surely bring you also peace and calmness and besides that, you will get very much good reward for it by Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa). Try to recite it every day, on your way to work or while you make the dishes or anything.

 

I deeply understand you my dear sister that it can be difficult and hard to talk to a family member who is a nonmuslim, they don't understand and feel you as a Muslim Sister or Brother do. But don't take it hard on yourself in that matter. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) knows you more than anyone else, so turn yourself to Him and seek Guidance from Him! Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) is truly every Mu'min's (Believer's) Al Waliyy (Best Friend), and Al Wahhab (The Bestower), so May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) bestow His Mercy and Love upon you and May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) guide your family to the right path, Ameen!!

 

But also remember that it is a test from Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa), many times in life we face hardships, but stay strong and keep your faith in Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) and InshaAllah ease will come after that and you will be rewarded with plenty of goodness and blessings!

 

I suggest you my dear sister, that even though your family is nonmuslim, try to talk with them about Islam a little bit once in a while. Every Muslim has the duty to do Da'wah (calling people towards Islam), even telling that Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) is the One is Da'wah!!

 

Tell them about the beauty of Islam, and that Harmony and Peace and Love you get in your soul for surrendering and submitting yourself in true obedience and in a sincere way to the One and only Who is worthy of all worship!

 

And the most important thing as a Muslim is to please Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa).

Try to be the best with your mother, even if she is not very nice. Every Muslim has to be obedient and nice towards their parents, especially their mothers. You can tell your mother about the high status a mother has in Islam.

 

As you mentioned in an earlier post that you have a sister who is very materialistic, who have several cars etc. Try to talk with her and convince her that materials are nothing. That one day we will all die, and that none of our materials will follow with us to death, they simply bring nothing good to our life except for giving the feeling of "pride" that you own a metal piece who can after some years be rotten steal.

 

 

Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) tells us in the Noble Qur'an;

"So, whatever thing you have been given in this world it is but (for) enjoyment of the worldly life. But what is with Allah is better and more lasting for those who have believed and upon their Lord rely" [The Qur'an; Chapter 42 (Ash Shuraa - Consultation) : Verse 36]

 

Meaning that everything in this life is nothing compared to next life, and people in this life get hung up in these things in this life that when something gets wrong they tend to freak out and think that it is the end of the world. But no, it is not the end of the world. Whatever you have been given is Mata'a (in arabic) which means that something you use but you don't neccessarily enjoy.

Back in the times, the acient arabs used to use a brush to scrape dishes with. It is something you use but you don't say "WOW, what an amazing brush!" because it is not something you neccessarily enjoy; like a fork, a shuffle etc these are examples of Mata'a in arabic.

 

From the verse above, Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) Says that everything in this world, everything we have been given is Mata'a.

In other words it is something for us to use for a higher purpose and the thing to enjoy is in the next life.

Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) Tells us; "But what is with Allah is better".

So, what Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) tells us from this verse is that whatever we have in this world, Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) has something much better than that.

For example you have youth, strength or ability, Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) will give you better of those things. So, the message we get is that we should not get caught up on these worldly things we have.

As great as these things are, Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) has it better!

 

But, Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) Has added another adjective into the verse, which is Abqa, and that means that it is much more everlasting. In other words; everything in this life is temporary.

For example you have health, but it will start withering away. You have strength, it starts weakening. You have a nice car, it starts getting problems. You have friends, they disappear or move to another place or you drift away and have your own lives.

Everything you have in this life and that you enjoy doesn't last.

So Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) says why don't you work for something  (1) that is better and (2) last longer.

But for those who? It is for those who have believed and upon their Lord rely.

 

Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) does not only mean "believers" in general when talking about that verse, even though it is included. But it is also for those believers who believe in that these worldly things are not as good as those things in the next life.  And it is also for those who upon their Lord rely as mentioned in the verse. It takes a lot of trust in Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa)  to really believe that what He is offering you in the next life is something you haven't even seen or even touched or smelled, only heard about and that is enough for you to trust on Allah's (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) Words.

 

May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) strengthen our emaan (faith) and so we don't get caught up on the worldly things, Ameen!

 

Tell her about what Islam tells us about death and that neither of our materials nor our rank of the society will save the us from death as Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) Tells us in the Noble Qur'an;

"Every soul shall have the taste of death" [The Qur'an; Chapter 29 (Al Ankabut - The Spider) : Verse 57]

 

InshaAllah, eventually your family will be guided by Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) to the right path too as you were guided.

 

But seriously, my dear sister. As I mentioned earlier, and as I understand from your latest post, your depression is deep. If it is so deep and very serious, I really suggest you to consult a doctor because it could have some physical affects. InshaAllah nothing will happen and Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) will grant you with the best of health and fill your days with happiness and love and peace (Ameen), but I am worried about you. Some things are better to not leave aside, such as deep depression.

 

And May Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa) gather us all in Paradise, Ameen Ya Rabbal'alameen! There we will have great company of each other and feel the bliss and odour of Paradise, InshaAllah!

 

I love you dearly for the sake of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Ta'alaa).

I would like to give you another HUGE teddybear hug for being so strong and kind hearted, MashaAllah!  

 

Take Care and Stay Blessed and Stay Strong!

As Salamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

 

PS. Next time you reply to me, I would like to see a smile from you!

Remember; Smiling is a Sunnah from the Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sallalahu Alayhi Wa Salam - Allah's Praise and Peace be upon him).