Mixed Marriage

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   Point noted. Her ex-husband had shortcomings that brought on the failure of the marriage. I have asked Allah's forgiveness for the matter and realize I may have to pay nonetheless. Better to accept His justice than deny it. That being said, please refrain from subtle insults against my wife whom you do not even know. If you want to cast aspersions as to character faults, I offer a perfectly good target. I am trying to put two lives in order here. There are literally thousands of forums where you can parade your vocabulary and impress people with words like "oxymoron."

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xenophon Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Male Joined: 10 November 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 57	Post Options Post Reply Quote xenophon Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 13 November 2009 at 6:07am
	Point noted. Her ex-husband had shortcomings that brought on the failure of the marriage. I have asked Allah's forgiveness for the matter and realize I may have to pay nonetheless. Better to accept His justice than deny it. That being said, please refrain from subtle insults against my wife whom you do not even know. If you want to cast aspersions as to character faults, I offer a perfectly good target. I am trying to put two lives in order here. There are literally thousands of forums where you can parade your vocabulary and impress people with words like "oxymoron."

martha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 30 October 2007 Status: Offline Points: 1140	Post Options Post Reply Quote martha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 November 2009 at 12:15pm
	Best to let her come to Islam in her own time. Just be a good example to her, then the rest will follow. THink of it like this. If someone had tried to revert you to Islam before you were ready, what would you most likely have done? Run the opposite direction? So be patient with her.
	some of us are a lot like cement:- all mixed up and permanently set

Akhe Abdullah Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Male Joined: 19 November 2008 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 1252	Post Options Post Reply Quote Akhe Abdullah Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 November 2009 at 11:26am
	Salams X yes she should become Muslim that is best.May Allah Guide her to Islam.May Allah Help you to be a good leader.If she is into traditional ways as you say,then it should not be a problem at the risk of sounding sexist i wont explain further. Edited by Akhe Abdullah - 12 November 2009 at 11:30am

abuayisha Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Muslim Joined: 05 October 1999 Location: Los Angeles Status: Offline Points: 5105	Post Options Post Reply Quote abuayisha Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 12 November 2009 at 9:43am
	" I married her because 1) she is as good a woman as one could ask for, 2) she divorced her husband to marry me---" Seems an oxymoron to me�

xenophon Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Groupie Male Joined: 10 November 2009 Location: United States Status: Offline Points: 57	Post Options Post Reply Quote xenophon Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 11 November 2009 at 3:34am
	In 2005, I agreed to marry a woman. But we had to wait for her divorce. In the meantime, deploring the way I had been too long living, I at last converted to Islam. My wife did not convert. Partly because she is a member of the Chinese Communist Party. But mostly because Islam (the Religions of the Book generally) make little sense to traditional Chinese habits of mind. I married her because 1) she is as good a woman as one could ask for, 2) she divorced her husband to marry me---it seemed wrong to break a promise to marry her, especially so since she was already in her mid-forties. I realize it is incumbent on me to bring her to Islam, if possible. Any suggestions how?