Marraige proposal for a relegious girl

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Edited by fais - 24 November 2009 at 6:48am

Salam,

Edited by fais - 12 October 2009 at 12:23am

Salams fais,

You have asked me to comment.Sigh.. SO I will do this for you.

I originally posted :-' I always think of the Prophet(pbuH). He did not rush into another marriage after the death of Khadijha..he was deeply in mourning.'

He mourned Khadija deeply. This is not un-Islamic to say, as many muslims say the same. So it is not right to be critical with my comment.

I did not say he passed a mourning period,you did in your previous post. This implies a set time. I did not imply a set time at all.

So, do you not understand that when she and Abu Bakr died it was called the Year of Sorrows?

There are plenty of Islamic references to the word 'mourn' if you look. ANd sources suggest the Prophet(pbuh) did not marry again for another 3 years, though some say it was not that long.

Now, I said about myself :- 'As for myself...I have been through a mourning period and still am in no hurry to re-marry.'

My period of sorrow(mourning) also did not have a set time and also I was not a widow. So, what I do and how I do it is personal to me. You must also remember that I am a revert of 6 years with no immediate assistance of learning. Unlike you who was taught from birth, but still doesn't know everything about Islam.

I am aware that a man should not continue to 'feel sorrow'(or mourn) no longer than a 3 day period after which he CAN marry again. It does not say he HAS to marry so quick. I also know of men that have waited years, like the Prophet(pbuh) before re-marrying. You saying ASAP to re-marry shows you have trouble controlling your urges.

A woman can 'feel sorrow' (or mourn) for 4 months and 10days. This is partly to establish whether she is pregnant or not before she re-marries. Why? SO the child knows who his real father is.

In fact, for both man and woman they are set periods, so it then becomes a mourning period, or as you say un-Islamic and is instead a Christian term. So do you wish to alter your comments instead of trying to infer I follow Christian traditions? It is misleading. And implies you yourself follow Christians.

F.O.H's can defend herself quite capably. However you suggest she agrees with me because I am white and BRitish. That is absurd. If she agrees with me it's because she feels the same.

You cannot blame either myself of F.O.H's for bad treatment by others towards you and those of your culture. ANd English is a world wide language. You yourself use it here. If you don't like English because it makes you feel 'different' then don't speak it.

You say in this thread there are 'lot of personal comments which i (you) don't want any other to see and have bad image of me (you).'

So, you have chosen to remove your comments with the hope that others see me and F'O'H's in a bad light. DOn't you think that is rather childish?

DO you think I care what others say/think about me? You have to give a good impression because you want to marry again. I understand your frustrations, but again your problems are not created by myself. SO...in a polite way to you brother, I will not remove my posts and join in this childish game.

And BTW...unlike you I am not childish enough to 'want a reply' on my comments. I have better things to do with my life.

BUt I am still mature enough to wish you success in finding a wife that deserves you.

Peace.

F.O.H's can defend herself quite capably. However you suggest she agrees with me because I am white and BRitish. That is absurd. If she agrees with me it's because she feels the same.

by just following someone blindly and than making a bad opinion is not defending.you never feel this but  me as an asian i feel this in everyday of life,i am not saying this cause arabs treat us badly (i am least bothered)but i want to highlight how foolish they are to believe that if they speak like americans or british they become stylish,and as usual you misunderstand me,i never said i have a problem with a race or a language,i believe having different race and languages is the plan of allah and we go aginst any language or make fun of any you make fun of allahs plan,no language in this world is bad.