I wanna save my marraige

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Hi fais,

Well, I am sorry to tell you but I understand her. In my company, there are a lot of Indians, and their smell is awful!! I am always avoiding to go with them in the elevator because I cannot... If I meet one of them (well, to be honest, not all of them are having this bad smell, but most of them are) first time in the morning, I cannot even take my breakfast because of it!!

The problem is with the kind of food you are taking, with to much spices, that are making your personal smell to much strong.

Really, I can understand her perfectly, because I just work with those man, but I cannot imagine myself just hugging one!!! I am sorry, but it's very very serious problem.

Another thing I understand from her, is the sexual conversations through the phone. Men doesn't need too much efforts to get excited, but for us as women, the most important thing are the touch, the kisses, the kindness... and the telephone is not the place to meet it. I understand your needs as man, but right now, what you have to do is to understand her as woman, and I think you are not doing.

My suggestion? First of all, change your diet. Try to stop using spices in your food and your body smell will start changing (it will take time, it's not a miracle). Secondly, regarding sexual intercourses, go slowly. Show her that for you, the most important thing is to be with her, not the sex. Hug her, kiss her, stay close to her, but don't look for sex. She is your wife, and she will come to you as soon as she can, but be sure that it's difficult for her too, you are not the only one having pain.

And as Full of Hopes said, be patience, if you love her, show her that the most important is what she feels and you will please her.

Well, I hope you will not get angry, I am not racist but that's truth, for us the Indians smell is so bad that we cannot stand with it 

Good luck,
Patricia

Edited by Pati - 28 August 2009 at 10:39am

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Pati Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 10 April 2009 Location: Spain Status: Offline Points: 304	Post Options Post Reply Quote Pati Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 28 August 2009 at 7:41am
	Hi fais, Well, I am sorry to tell you but I understand her. In my company, there are a lot of Indians, and their smell is awful!! I am always avoiding to go with them in the elevator because I cannot... If I meet one of them (well, to be honest, not all of them are having this bad smell, but most of them are) first time in the morning, I cannot even take my breakfast because of it!! The problem is with the kind of food you are taking, with to much spices, that are making your personal smell to much strong. Really, I can understand her perfectly, because I just work with those man, but I cannot imagine myself just hugging one!!! I am sorry, but it's very very serious problem. Another thing I understand from her, is the sexual conversations through the phone. Men doesn't need too much efforts to get excited, but for us as women, the most important thing are the touch, the kisses, the kindness... and the telephone is not the place to meet it. I understand your needs as man, but right now, what you have to do is to understand her as woman, and I think you are not doing. My suggestion? First of all, change your diet. Try to stop using spices in your food and your body smell will start changing (it will take time, it's not a miracle). Secondly, regarding sexual intercourses, go slowly. Show her that for you, the most important thing is to be with her, not the sex. Hug her, kiss her, stay close to her, but don't look for sex. She is your wife, and she will come to you as soon as she can, but be sure that it's difficult for her too, you are not the only one having pain. And as Full of Hopes said, be patience, if you love her, show her that the most important is what she feels and you will please her. Well, I hope you will not get angry, I am not racist but that's truth, for us the Indians smell is so bad that we cannot stand with it Good luck, Patricia Edited by Pati - 28 August 2009 at 10:39am
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fais Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Status: Offline Points: 344	Post Options Post Reply Quote fais Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 27 August 2009 at 12:43am
	Salam, Dear sister, thnx for your dua,just pray that she again fall in love with me as i cant stay without her,you know my wife is born and brought up in saudi culture and i am from india,some how i feel saudi culture is very open to talaq,you know when she took advice from her friends about our relation all told her to take talaq from me ,in india we dont take talaq so easily.Talaq is the most hateful thing to Allah which he is permitted by law.

Full of Hopes Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Female Joined: 06 August 2009 Status: Offline Points: 855	Post Options Post Reply Quote Full of Hopes Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 August 2009 at 11:39pm
	i am sorry for u brother. May Allah help. I have no idea about ur situation & what 2 do. But i want 2 say be more patient, the other members may take time 2 reply to ur question but soon they will. All get busy because of work & Ramadan. Seek the help from Allah. Also the men know alot, ask them they can help u.
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fais Members Profile Send Private Message Find Members Posts Add to Buddy List Senior Member Joined: 24 August 2009 Location: Oman Status: Offline Points: 344	Post Options Post Reply Quote fais Report Post Thanks(0) Quote Reply Posted: 25 August 2009 at 12:39am
	Dear sisters, I am sorry for entering this forum as it is for women only i think,but my problem can be well understood by a woman than any male so i am here seeking your advise, I got married 2 years back in saudi arabia with my seconf cousin,she is wonderful lady full of life and with a very clean heart,its love marraige and it took a great effort for us to convince her father for this marraige, she fell in love with me 4 years back and she was mad about me,whatever i say whatever i do she was really interested,then after a 2 yr longdistance relation as she was in saudi and i was in india we finally got married,now according to the saudi system girl get married first in sharia court and then the boy gets time to set all the things for the girl and then take formally with a valima party. after marraige i had to go back to india as i had a fight with my employer,now i am here after one year,she is still with her father and i plan to take her with me in november. after this gap of one year she has developed a starnge disease,when ever i approach her for sex she gets a very bad smell from me and this forces her to hate sex,and recently she also complaint that when she talk to me she feels suffocated and just want to hang up as soon as possible and this has created a great problem for me as i am alone in riyadh and now a days her good qualities like her high confidence and ability to handle difficult situations makes me feel inferior,this is happeneing since she has become very mechanical to me on the phone and her nonparticipation in any of the sexual talk. earlier she loved to be physical with me but now even the thought of it horrifies her,last time we had a fight on the phone as she was rude to me for no reason and i made her cry when she was attending a party and i was and i agree i did a mistake and i said sorry to her,but after this incident she dont me that she might leave me. now the girl who chose me leaving all the rich boys with saudi nationality with high income,the girl who loved me says that she might leave me if this problem continues. i am really surprised with her,i left the whole world behind for her,my career,my house everything for her and because of this badsmell problem she says she might leave me,she sounds so selfish i know she has problem,the smell is so bad that she feel like vomiting but instead of finding a solution she says time will solve this problem. I think this is a problem of al ain which means bad eye of someone on our relation or it is possible that someone has done seher on her means black magic,but she is not interested in taking any step to solve this problem accept reading sura bakra.i fight with her frequently and she is just happy with my thought and not my presence,she loves me a lot and i adont want to leave her. Edited by icforumadmin - 29 August 2009 at 6:15am