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    Posted: 14 August 2009 at 9:17am
salamo alaykm wrahmtu allah wbarkatu,
plz help me in an issue that makes me worried:
am a girl who lives in jordan and will be married inshallah to a muslim australian guy at the end of this year.
he is workin in security field,and due to the recession that has affected the whole world and since he works in part time he decided to start a second job part time,now with his new job je is working as a crowd controller in a hotel and he has to make sure the place is safe and secured,that includes the bar inside the hotel since australia is a non islamic country..
so am not feelin comfortable with his new job but i dont know if its ok for him to work in such a place since he is not in islamic country?
please help me.
jzakm allah khairan.
 
 
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته،
أرجو مساعدتي في أمر يحيرني:
انا فتاة مقيمة في الأردن وسأرتبط في نهاية العام من شاب مسلم أسترالي الأصل وهو يعمل في مجال الأمن
والآن وكما تعلمون الوضع الإقتصادي قد تدهور في العالم أجمعه وهو يعمل بدوام جزئي وبسبب الوضع الإقتصادي وقلة توافر العمل فهو الآن يعمل بوظيفة ثانية
كرجل أمن في فندق في أستراليا ومن وظيفته الحفاظ على الأمن في الفندق ومن ضمنه الملهى الليلي
وانا لا أرغب في ذلك ولكن لا أعلم إذا كان في وضعه يجوز بما أنه يعمل في بلد غير مسلم.


ساعدوني جزاكم الله خيرا.

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i wish if i can find him a good offer in australia or even in the arab world.
but its not easy to convince him if the offer is not a big WOW.
he is australian origionally he studied islamic culture in university he works in security field...if anyone can help i appreciate it jazakom allah khair.
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Why would you want an Anglo. Ive never understood some people. But anyway.
 
hmmm, dont waste your time, just leave him. Then the problem is solved easy way.
 
You might find better someday.
 


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Originally posted by SteppeNomad SteppeNomad wrote:

Why would you want an Anglo. Ive never understood some people. But anyway.
 
hmmm, dont waste your time, just leave him. Then the problem is solved easy way.
 
You might find better someday.
 


WOW Confused  Alhamdulillah, there are not much muslim men like you, because if everyone was, I would understand why the muslim women are marrying "anglos". Better to open your mind and allow fresh air to come inside, really.


RASHROUSH2222,

You should not be worried because of his work, the problem is with his believe. If he is a good and convinced muslim, he will have no doubt about what he is allowed and not to do. But he should not leave this work because of entering a bar, because of the crisis. It is very difficult to find a good job, so better to keep the one we have by the moment.

Just stay there to support him, and he will be strong enough to go on with his work.

I wish you all the best in your marriage and all the happiness for both. God bless you.

Patricia

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steppenomad : r u a muslima?coz if u r am surprised from ur question marryin an anglo?he is a muslim isnt he?a good muslim actually elhamdulillah and am proud and honored to be his wife inshallah.and no matter wat inshallah i wont leave him.i have been blessed to have an opprotunity to marry a reverted muslim who cares alot about islam and that will help me teachin ppl in australia about islam and how to recite quran properly.
 
Pati: thnx so nice of u to say so i think u r right.his beleifs r very very good elhamdulillah and am sooooo proud of him..i will let him go with this work but i will always pray allah to give him another job away from these places.allah is too generous and he will respond inshallah.thnx again nice to have u here my dear.
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Asalaamu alaikum:
Steppe Nomad, you should be ashamed of yourself. My mother was a turk who married my Anglo father, himself  a Muslim convert.
I am assuming you yourself may be turk, as yoy refer to the steppes, the origin of many of the turkish peoples.
Please reread the last Sermon of the prophet, and reflect upon his statement: found at http://www.islamicity.com/mosque/lastserm.HTM
"All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action. Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood"
 
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Originally posted by mariyah mariyah wrote:

Asalaamu alaikum:
Steppe Nomad, you should be ashamed of yourself.
 
I believe he raises a valid question.  How is it that a girl in Jordan, having a totally different culture and background (assuming she was born Muslim)would immigrate from a Muslim country to marry an Australian convert?  Seems to me that her concern about his work will likely only be the beginning of many more issues to come.  One may want to seriously consider this relationship now before heartache and regrets at some future date.
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Originally posted by RASHROUSH2222 RASHROUSH2222 wrote:

,now with his new job je is working as a crowd controller in a hotel and he has to make sure the place is safe and secured,that includes the bar inside the hotel since australia is a non islamic country..
so am not feelin comfortable with his new job but i dont know if its ok for
 
You may want to pose this question to a scholar in Australia who is familiar with the customs there.  Here in Los Angeles, and in most places I've visited, there is hotel security, but I don't really understand the function of "crowd controller" in a hotel.  It is however very common for bars to have what we call "bouncers", who escort drunk and disorderly patrons out of the establishment.  If his employment is mainly and primarily for this purpose, not only is it very dangerous, but clearing against .. "but do not help one another in sin and transgression..." al-Maaidah 5:2 Qur'an.  In other words, providing a safe environment for others to continue consuming alcohol.
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