I feel lonely..

Wa Alaikum As Salams sister

My sister why are you feeling this way?  What made you loose your confidence?  In my opinion that doesnt have anything to do with finding a true friend.  Here in the States a true friend is very hard to come by and its sounds like that happens every where.  Sometimes the one who you least think is and will be the best friend you could ever have.  You picked a name "full of Hopes". Then you have to be that (hopefull) smile, because in that is a reward.

Sometimes it's good to be by yourself, that way you will figure out who is most important in your life.

Zaharah  

   Do you mean here or there?
       I was born in K.S.A. Is not that strange??? but I mean I see my sisters always have friends. They call them and visit them many times and I compare them with my self. Why don't I have friends. No body calls my cell phone except for a favor with work or so on.
   But as you said sister Zaharah; maybe I do need to start the change from myself. I say I am "Full of Hopes" because I trust Allah and I hope He would make me happy and successful in future. I love Allah and I love the good Muslims. May be that is why I don't have friends. Whenever someone likes me and wants to be my friend: if I see she is not a good Muslims, I start to get away and hide from her till she understands that I don't like her.
I am not sure if I am doing something right.
    To me: if my friend does't help me to be a good Muslim, reminds me of Allah and likes me in the sake of Allah, I consider that a waste of time.
   But sister Zaharah said the truth. It is hard to find that friend and this is one of the reasons I chose this forum and tried to saty in contact with you. I feel relieved when I discuss this with you.

    I hope you see what I mean..        

Edited by Full of Hopes - 09 August 2009 at 9:18pm

Thank you so much dear.. but believe me I don't lie to people here. My heart was broken when my close friend left me. She was a good Muslim but she didn't tell me why she did so. No clear reason.. She suddenly said; I am married. I have many responsibilities. I have no time for you. After that I started to believe; there is no loyal friends.
    It is complex. I myself can't tell what I feel exactly. But believe me I am not lying to people on this forum or any other people. I consider you my sisters in Islam, which is much more better than friends.
When I wrote this topic sister Zaharah I was so sad while when I replied I was better especially after I saw your replies and I tried to give you reasons so that you could see my problem clearer.
   That is why they seem from two people.Because I say what I feel to my sisters without limitation.
I hope you see what I mean.
I don't mean I am rude to others. I said didn't met the good Muslim I want.
   While on the other hand I try not to hurt others' feelings more than what you think of me..

Edited by Full of Hopes - 10 August 2009 at 10:42pm

It looks like talking about friendship is endless. We would better discuss something else I am sorry.