Polygany

Assalamu Alaikum

What a sad story.  Inshallah it was not posted as a means to get others to bash Islam for laws regarding polygamy.  If one reads the article closely, it appears that this family and the events that happened within it were greatly influenced by the large amount of money the family received due to the death of their daughter.

It is inevitable that some people will blame Islam for what happened instead of looking into what motivated those involved to do what they did.  The bottom line is that greed (whether it be for money, possessions, power or even for bearing offspring) is not a virtue regardless of whether we are discussing Judaism, Christianity or Islam. 

Only Allah...God...knows all things and only He knows what was truly in the hearts and minds of those who were involved in this incident.  May Allah have mercy on us all for the wrong that we do in this life.  Ameen!

Allah Hafiz,

Sister Khadija

abuayisha wrote: "During the second visit, the wives "frequently screamed and argued" and their husband told Myra Morton "if you don't like polygamy, get a divorce," Toural said, according to the affidavit." Jealousy.

Why on earth he took her to Morocco? Moroever, why he put them together in one room?. The quarell is natural like this setting specially if their deen is not that high.  Anyway, I'm shock to what this women did. Jealousy should be within Islamic boundary not this cold blood mentality. May Allah give her what she deserve in this world and hereafter. She killed a muslim brother/husband who was married her for long time. Why, because she can't concieve nor she want to see another sister have his baby.

In addition, she didn't allow the muslim husband to bring his second wife to States. Not only that, she secrectly contacted US State Department to accuse her co-wife as terrorist. What an idiot headless women.

Marrying second wife is very tough preposition in this country. That is why alternative is going to Muslim world. Convert sisters generally don't prevent their husbands to marry another wive/s if they can be justice/afford. But these days there is a campaign against this islamic ruling by so called progressive muslims.  They will never succeed to erase well rooted ruling in Islam.

May Allah have mercy on deceased brother.

Abu Mujahid 

While I don't condone what happened I would like to put out three things.  First, both husband and first wife were converts.  So he was a convert too, please do not blame the sister being a convert for her actions.  This could have happened anywhere.  Secondly, in Pennsylvania and throughout the whole US Polygyny is illegal.  End of story.  The Quran clearly states you are to only take other wives if you can deal with all wives equally.  Placing one wive in a legal limbo with dangers of prosecution to all three parties is not treating your wives equally.  The moroccan sister would always have been at the mercy of the first wife. 

I don't believe that the first wife was totally on board with the second wife thing to begin with, but none of us where there to know. 

Being a barren woman myself, none of you men can understand the emotional anguish a woman goes thru when she cannot give her husband children.  You just cannot understand.  Its almost as if it robs you of your very womanhood.  I don't condone what the woman did, but there are dark places you face when you realize you're not a whole person.  Even if it was not his intention, I'm sure that his first wife felt cast aside and unloved because she wasn't enough for him.  Its a fear all infertile women have and hers was realized in a very poor fashion.  I've told my husband if the Mormon Church were to ever restore Polygyny, I would be fine with it.  But, that's after many years and without losing my only child prior to the events.  This woman lost her daughter, lost her fertility/gender identity, and then watched her husband marry a younger sister to replace what she could not give her.  Perhaps a little pity would be in order.  Killing is wrong, but we also must take into account her mental stability.  It really sound from all other reports I've read that this woman snapped.  I don't believe she was as supportive of this as some would like us to believe.  I think she was desperate and probably very mentally ill by the end.  Depression, anxiety and a host of other problems were simply labelled as jealously and that is that.

Perhaps you should all pray for some understanding.  Polygyny is hardest on the women.  Men fail to understand that and it is why the Quran allows it but cautions highly in regards to it.  This woman will be punished in the PA courts and by God.  He will know her mind, heart and intentions and his justice will be perfect.  But it is not ours to judge. 

I for one understand how this could happen.  A naive second wife, a pushy husband desparate for children and an even more desparate wife trying to hold onto her husband after losing everything else.  This could just have easily happened in So. Utah with the breakaway sects or another polygynous group.  Its a tragedy, but jealousy, dear sirs, is only the surface of a much deeper problem.

What a complete tragedy. We really know nothing  about the family dynamics.

May Allah have mercy on us all.