accepting a muslim household

marie-london wrote: i do believe that islam does not treat women fair, and a man in islam is taking another wife is only an excuse to have an affair or to take a mistress... in any religion and way in society it is still a man world, i too have read in quran that a man is allowed to beat his wife under some circustances but must be careful how he does it .... it makes me sick, very rare in most soceities you dont find the women beating the husband, i also agree with pati that western men are in for the long haul and because of choice you hope to find real love and muslim men its more of a status and obligation (correct me if i am wrong)

You are entitled to your opinion Marie, however a lot of times the experiences we have had can effect the way we perceive things. Your husband's behavior, and him associating it with Islam and "finding his faith" might have some contribution towards how you feel. I wouldn't blame you.

Probably a lot of non-Muslim women who have been in relationships with Muslim men feel this way. Unfortunately this is because the Muslim men they are in a relationship with are not the "best pick" of the lot - Islamically speaking (or otherwise). Often times the women are sincere and genuine and actually love the man - but the man is just in it for material reasons, fun, money, green-card etc.

Just curious, where did you first meet your husband ? Many women will meet such men at Pubs or parties . . . while it is perfectly acceptable behavior in a nonmuslim society, (where good non-muslim men could be found) - you will never find a good Muslim husband in such places.

Chances are, if he is willing to date you, chase you, flirtatious advances, sleep with you, is drinking - then he is not a good Muslim man to start with . . . . so the chances of it working out are slim. . It will not work out because he is not a good man and so is not likely to give you the respect you deserve. This is why majority of times, the nonmuslim women find out there "Muslim" boyfriend or husband was a bad egg . . . .

This doesn't mean all are like that - Or Islam is like that !!!

The best advise is for non-muslim women to stick to non-muslim men - because you can read him better, because you know the culture and background he's from. You could probably tell if he was a bad-egg. He doesn't have any ulterior motives . . .

Chrysalis wrote: Ron Webb wrote: No doubt there are good and bad people everywhere, but no other religion enables mistreatment of women, or subjugates them to men, like Islam. Somebody needs to pass on this information to the poor women who keep converting to Islam !

Not that it would make any difference.   It's been widely known for decades that smoking is bad for you too, but young women in particular are taking up the habit by the millions.  The sad fact is that most people (men and women) do not make rational choices.

fais wrote: hit her with a miswak (a little Root stick used to brush teeth) on her shoulder very lightly

fais wrote: This is an authentic hadith,now i dont know wots your intention now.