Help me to Understand

Asalaam Alaikum Fatimah

I think people do get "tired" in life.. that is I think part of aging and wisdom, to a degree.. Life is work.

And dear sister.. I do hope you can seek and find perspective on your life. Sometimes we are SO internal and self-focused we can get caught up in it.

We think another person can make up �whole.�

If you are looking constantly at the glass as �half full� then you will notice what is lacking.  I think of this quote:

 

�If you think about shortages, you�re going to attract more shortage! If you think about what�s missing, you�re going to attract more of what�s missing in your life�.  Dr. Dyer

 

Sister, it is so important to be grateful and be even more grateful. The minute I think my life is �lacking� I reflect upon the people in Haiti, or the Congo, or Palestine, or Burma or many other places. People who are dying from diseases that are curable, being raped or molested; being killed for no reason.  I think of the people who have no place to live, no one who cares at all about them.  There are 27 million people enslaved in the world.  Think what hope they have�

 

I watch a lot of documentaries and read a lot about other peoples� lives. It REALLY helps. In karate we have a saying �having an attitude of gratitude.� What are you grateful for?  Make a list Sister. Write a list of all that you can be thankful to Allah for.. it can be something like air, the fact you have hands (that have not been chopped off), year heart beats every moment of your life, your beautiful children. Whatever it is.. Thank Allah you are not beaten every day.

 

It can be hard to change where you are at. Its fine to have occasional sadness.. but ongoing is not good and it is changeable. You have to take mental and practical steps.

 

I do not mean to sound harsh at all.. but more passionate.. you have so much going for you.. see that.. See the beauty that Allah as given you. Allah has given you so very much.. weep with joy my dear sister..

 

Hayfa

Edited by Hayfa - 24 March 2010 at 1:19pm

Asalaam Alaikum Fatimah,

I really feel for you. And I am sure Hayfa is right in saying that you are depressed. BUt that need not be a big problem, really it need not be. At our saddest times we evaluate our life..but often we are so caught up in the negative aspects that it is almost impossible to see a silver lining.
Sister, it is not likely that you will die alone. I am sure at our vulnerable and weak moments( as this is what us humans are) we all feel the same.I certainly have.I am not ashamed to say it. It doesn;t mean that Allah or His truth is not important..it just means that we all get tired in life, as Hayfa says.
The fact that you have such emotion and passion about life, love, family, childen, people..shows that you are a truly good person. You perhaps cannot see it because life has not been as kind to you as you deserve. It happens a lot to good people.
BUt I know you will come though this episode. And I can say without a shadow of a doubt, that, when you do, you will aid those that also feel low. It is what kind people do because they remember their sadness and don't like others to suffer.
THere are basically 2 kinds of people in this life..the givers and the takers. I know which one you are:)
So, be pleased Allah made you this way. You have much to give and Allah will reward you.
I went through a horrendous time..I never believed I would come through it..I had special friends to keep me going. ANd less than a year later I am the happiest I have been for a decade.
So...many of us have been right where you are now. It will come right for you Fatimah.
Take care,
Fatimah (yes, that's my name too)

Salaam Hayfa,

yes sister you are correct in all that you say.  Living in this world to me is so very hard, I would never want to do it again, never.  Just it seem out of 6 children in my family, I am choosen to have the hardest life, why?  I would never wish that on anyone, even if I am so angry to them, I would never.  its just too much.

Fatimah