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    Posted: 29 January 2017 at 11:26pm
well dear you are not alone.
we women all suffer the same to get to the wedding podium we go through alot in this era of ours. let alone after the podium to make it work till death do us apart.
but i have come to realize that life is what you make it . men have become selfish wanting more from us even though they offer little or nothing.
am married and happy today not because he came to his senses or i finally met the right one but it was because i decided to think out of the box and made him the right one for me.
ooh yes it was not because of my hard work i put in to do everything he wanted, or changing from who iam into someone else but i added a little spark or irk into our love by using a love spell which made him to stay because i loved him and he loved me but he was not committing i felt like i was loosing him. i mean we had already two kids my life had changed into a mother but his was the same living his life the same. oooh how selfish but its all thanks to this man baba musa . at first it was difficult to decide but he talked to me advised me before we started everything and its the best decision of my life am happy and my family.talk to that healer baba musa just for advise its free with him his email is [email protected] or www.handsofnatures.com. girls stop being heart broken waiting for someone to change your life you have the keys to your car drive it or you will always be late
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salam sister

Wow i am so happy to hear that,the month of ramadan has brought happiness in your life,Allah has made your husband's heart soft for you.
 
Have nice and great married life.
 
Hope this change in your husband remains forever.
 
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Assalamualaikum to everyone here.

I would like to update on my situation since I haven't been online for a while. A few months ago, my husband came back and begged to come back to the marriage. I have never thought, even in my wildest dream that I would live to see the day this would happen as my situation seemed really hopeless and there was almost zero chance my husband would return as his mind was bent on divorce when he left me. It was really hard for me when my marriage ended, and I never experienced anything more painful in my life than what I had to go through at that time.

Anyway, against everyone's advice who had seen me suffered, I decided to give my ex a second chance without putting too much hope it would work out. It has been really hard trying to forgive and forget what happened because so much damage has been done. Psychologically, I am still traumatised by it. However, as each day passes, I begin to see the positive changes in my husband, not only as a spouse but also in fulfilling his muslim responsibility to God. He seems to a be a complete new man now. I don't know how this change happened, other than Allah is All Powerful to influence a person's heart and mind if He wishes to. I am also thankful to all the people who have prayed for me, and perhaps this is the answer to their prayers.

I don't know what will happen in the future as only Allah Knows best. But I have found happiness again presently in my marriage, and I would like to share this news with everyone who is in pain or going through some suffering - that there is light at the end of the tunnel, and we trust in Allah for all that He has planned for us.

Ramadan Mubarak to all my muslim brothers and sisters.
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Salam,
sister i think your husband has to say talaq than only it is accepted as talaq,in my case in saudi i filed for talaq so my brother told me that if i give talaq to her directly the procedure becomes faster as there is no hearing and you dont have to meet kazi who will try to explain that it is not good to give talaq,so now i said talaq to her thru her brother so talaq is done only the paper work is left.hope this helps
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Originally posted by anderson anderson wrote:

If anyone can please help me answer this important question: how do I determine if I am already divorced or not? 

I went on the net and I saw a muslim blog that says you cannot be automatically divorced without an arbitration or final word from the judge. Is that true?
 
 
Assalaam alaikum sister,
 
I think talaq depends where abouts you live. I say that because in some places saying talaq 3 times seems to be enough .
 
In the UK however talaq must be done with paperwork and a muslim council for talaq to take effect. For this reason I have been unable to do khula as I cannot pay the feesUnhappy SOunds ridiculous doesn't it.
 
So I am unable to answer your question. Hopefully someone here might be able to set you straight.
 
How are you coping now? IS the situation still bad financially? It seems muslims still don't seem to be listening or helping you in your area. Where do you live sister? I am sure someone here might at least live in the same country as you and be able to contact another person more local to you.
 
 
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ConfusedAssalaam Alaikum,
 It turns out that my husband married this other woman without my knowledge  and things are bad. He demands that I accept her and welcome her with no problem, when I didn't agree with his marrying her in the first place.
 
Walaikum assalaam,
Can he marry another women in the US? I don't know. Certianly here another wife is not legally accepted.
 
Have you spoken with your local imam about this? I would suggest this would be a good way forward, and the imam could speak with your husband to find out what is going on.
 
As he can't financially support you both either, and the situation is bad, maybe you should see a lawyer? Maybe they can help?
 
If you don't want to accept her then you don't have to. It is wrong for him to tell you after he has married her. Islamicly that is the wrong way to go about things. As such I guess he doesn't need your permision to marry another, but he should have told you beforehand .
 
What do you want to do sister? Do you want to remain married to him?
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If anyone can please help me answer this important question: how do I determine if I am already divorced or not?

When my husband left, he said it clearly and without doubt that he does not want to be married anymore. So do I automatically go into the iddat period (which are 3 menstrual cycles). When the 3 cycles come around, does this mean I am automatically divorced under first talak? I have tried to contact the imam at the mosque but no one wants to answer me. I have also tried to ask my husband to approach the islamic centre together with me to determine our status but he refused to co-operate. I am now left in the lurch not knowing what is my marital status. I went on the net and I saw a muslim blog that says you cannot be automatically divorced without an arbitration or final word from the judge. Is that true?
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ConfusedAssalaam Alaikum,
 It turns out that my husband married this other woman without my knowledge  and things are bad. He demands that I accept her and welcome her with no problem, when I didn't agree with his marrying her in the first place.
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